I met a lady recently. Her eyes were simply
amazing. They had a sparkle in them that could
light a football field. These are the kind of
eyes that you look at and are simply in awe of.
Like a moth to a flame, they are irresistible.

So, why did I share that with you in an article
about living on purpose?

Because, she was not living her purpose. She did
that because she was told all her life by other
people that it was not OK to be who she was. She
was told to back off. She was told to “tone it down”.
Her energy was too strong for people to handle.
As a direct result, she held herself back. She
put the dimmer switch on and turned down her
amazing glow.

The sad part is that she listened to those
people. I didn’t ask her directly, but my
guess is that she did that to avoid criticism
and to fit in, to be accepted, to be loved.
I know that one very well. I lived that lie/life
for a very, very long time.

I was afraid to be the real me. I was afraid
to be who I was for fear that I wouldn’t be
accepted… that I wouldn’t be wanted. The thought
of that was way too painful, so I sold out. I
began to be what others wanted me to be and
although I was not ostracized, I wasn’t happy.
In fact, I was deeply miserable, resentful and

I gave up the one thing that I could truly call
my own. That one thing was ME. I gave up being
me so that I could be someone that I didn’t like
in order to be accepted by people that I didn’t
even care for. Very ironic isn’t it.

I gave up being me and didn’t like who I was.
In fact, I didn’t know who I was because I was
a chameleon, changing color with every new
circumstance and or group I came across.
I was terribly lonely. Yet, I was powerless
to stop it because if I became the real me,
I risked losing the illusion of acceptance.
Not being accepted was far too painful. So,
I kept playing the game at all costs. And I
never broke that cycle of insanity.

Now, I share that with you to make the point
that to live on purpose, YOU HAVE TO… AND
be your true self. You have to be real. You
have to be. There is no other way around it.
Let me tell you from direct experience. Fitting
in is a bunch of nonsense. It is ridiculous,
unfulfilling, undesirable and a complete waste
of time. It sucks the life out of you. It drains
you because it’s so much harder to be who you’re
not than to be who you are.

The point is…

Why would you want to be anyone else but the
magical, magnificent, miracle called you?
Living on purpose is really easy when you’re
being yourself. It’s natural. It’s light. It’s
free. It’s fun. It’s truly beautiful.


Be proud. Show the world who you really are. The
people that don’t need to be in your life when
you make that transition will naturally go away.
You will soon meet new friends, develop awesome
and powerful relationships and experience greater
happiness, satisfaction and excitement than ever.

So, what do you say? Will the real YOU
please show up, be seen and be heard?

Author's Bio: 

Darshan is an expert in human motivation, behavior change and rapid transformation. He is a 20-year veteran in the field of personal and professional development. He is an ontologist, facilitator, trainer, author and transformational speaker. He is the President of Freedom Incorporated, Inc., a revolutionary, innovative company dedicated to supporting organizations and people all over the world to help them to achieve their highest potential.

Darshan has a unique ability to very quickly empower participants to change their own minds about who they are and what's possible for themselves, both now and in the future. When they change their own minds, their change is permanent, leaving them free to make new decisions, take new actions and create new, powerful and fulfilling lives.

From Fortune 100 corporations such as Baxter Pharmaceuticals, to small mom and pop companies, school systems and prison systems, across the United States, he has worked with and inspired over 30,000 people.