There is a survey in the USA that says, nearly 20 million couples these days are not being physically intimate with their spouse. Experts have found out that these couples only engages in sexual intimacy about not more than ten times a year. If you can relate to this problem and you want to learn what you can do to increase the passion and physical intimacy in your marriage, please read on.

On top of many factors the contribute to a successful marriage, sexual intimacy is one of them. A marriage without passion usually ends up feeling like you are living with a room mate. Many couples today are having a difficult time connecting with their partners in a passionate and physical way. A sexless marriage makes you and your spouse susceptible to various negative emotions like bitterness, resentment, and anger. These feelings also makes you feel more susceptible to affairs in your marriage.

If your not happy about the lack of sex in your relationship, then check out the following reasons why your marriage is lacking sexual intimacy that you so badly crave. If you can find out what the real issues are (and that’s assuming you don’t know) then you can work on find the solution for your problem.

For men, there are many reasons why they've lost interest or desire for their wife. These are the following reasons why men are no longer interested in sex:

- Sex has become boring just as your relationship has turned mundane and complacent
-The passion has fizzled
-No longer feeling attractive to his spouse
-He has an erectile dysfunction
-Has a low sex drive do to hormone changes or stress levels
-He is finding gratification elsewhere

Mny women's reason for lack of sex may be a little different. Women are emotion based and if they're not in the mood to get physically intimate, it's usually due to how they are feeling. Here are some examples of why a woman may not be in the mood to get intimate.

-Sex isn't as satisfying for her as it is with her husband.
-The romance and passion is gone in the relationship
-The husband let himself go and the wife no longer find her husband attractive
-The wife is angry at her husband
-The wife is depressed
-The wife has a difficulty in reaching orgasm

How to Increase the Passion in Your Marriage

The first thing that you can do is open up the lines of communication with your spouse. When you are not talking about this issue, it can feel like there is a large elephant in the room. When you ignore this problem, it can make the two of you grow further apart over time.

Sex can be a powerful way to connect with your spouse and especially for men. There could be numerous of reasons why your spouse isn't feeling it. The most important thing is being able to comfortable address this issue. Ignoring this issue will only neglect your own needs, and you know what happens when your needs are neglected. Resentment builds up and resentment can actually slowly kill a marriage.

Secondly, when you and your spouse talk about this delicate topic, you don't want to bruise their ego. Use "I" statements. "I" statements will feel less like of an attack and help you get your message across without instigating a fight. When you guys talk, talk about what you guys can do to increase more passion in your marriage. Are you guys spending enough time to cultivate your love and passion? Sometimes because of work and stress, sexual intimacy significantly decreases. Being able to talk about your lack of intimacy openly will help you and your spouse figure out the next step.

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