The first and most important step to attaining elusive dreams is to know and believe that they are indeed attainable. A shift in your mindset must take place in order to have and hold the things you want most, but feel are out of reach. The key to this shift in mindset is to remove self imposed limitations. It does not matter what other people think of your abilities. What matters is whether or not you choose to believe them. If there is something that you feel is out of your reach it is because you have decided to place it out of your reach.

Everything and anything is within your grasp. Do not limit yourself by the past experiences of others. They are the creators of their own life experience and you are the creator of yours. To measure you life and you abilities based off of another is self limiting. It is a continuation of what has been. This will never allow you to create new things and the life you want. The old adage “if he can do it, I can do it” will only take you as far as the self imposed limitations of another. Not only can you achieve what another has, but you can go further if you believe it! This is your life and it is not intended to be compared against that of another. Forget about whether or not someone else has done it and decide for yourself that you will and can do it.

Do not choose the things you want based off of the skills, talent and resources you currently possess. Dream about, visualize and ask for the things you truly want whether or not someone has already had them and whether or not you know how to get them. All of the things you need to receive the happiness you desire will be delivered to you once you decide that you can and will have them.

Author's Bio: 

Lyndsey Shaffer is the co- founder of the Onyx Six - Women of Color Business Network Onyx Six is a business development network committed to creating a supportive and influential community of minority women entrepreneurs and professionals. Contact Lyndsey Shaffer by visiting