Attracting women: but what comes next?

This is a big question! For all the information that is out there on dating much of it stops at attracting women, with little thought to what actually comes next. Now, of course, the idea is that once you've attracted a woman the relationship will just follow, as will the fairy tale wedding and the 2.4 kids.

Hmm...does that fit your experience?

Or do you find that you seem to have a blast for a couple of months and then she stops returning your calls and is always 'busy'? Well, you aren't alone. A lot of guys find themselves in this frustrating position and it makes them go all kinds of 'Grr!'

So what happened? Well, believe it or not attracting women is actually the easy part (relatively speaking); but keeping her is a whole different ball game. There are essentially three reasons why we don't get to the relationship stage: Firstly, and most obviously, total incompatibility. And that's fair enough: we can't be compatible with all women and they can't all be compatible with us... no matter how hot she may be!

But there are another couple of reasons why things don't progress to a relationship, and I want to focus on these because they are within your control: In the early days of dating, being cool and maintaining composure is relatively easy; but as we approach the two month mark things can start to slip. This is especially common if guys have been using some form of 'game' or 'pickup' to attract women. Trust me, women are 10x more adept at spotting half truths and inconsistencies in character than we are, and once they see that a guy has been running some kind of attraction system on them they will run a mile. Even if you are very good at this stuff, most women will have you sussed within six months.

I can fully understand why guys follow pick up because it can work wonders; but a much better approach for attracting women is to use some select techniques, and work on your 'way of being' (and this works as good as any pick up), which makes a relationship much easier to transition into without her screaming 'Fake!!' When I talk about this 'way of being' I am talking more deeply about who you are as a person, and how you present yourself to the world.

The final reason why men mess up in relationships is that many become super emotional and needy once they fall for a girl. If you have ever been in this situation then you will know exactly what I mean! When we develop feelings for a woman everything changes, and jealousy and fear start to creep their way into the relationship. Before long we find ourselves either pursuing her for approval or doing everything we can to try and make her 'happy'. The irony is that the more work we put in to try and make her happy, the less content she seems to be! Knowledge really is power here, and by knowing what is happening and how to handle the situation you can protect the relationship and take it from strength to strength.

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