When life's challenges feel all-consuming, it's only natural to yearn for rescue. You might cross your fingers, wish on a star, focus your intent, and hope with all your might that someone or something will swoop in and fix all your problems. Typically, people will look to a romantic partner or an employer offering a dream job to liberate them from their troubles. They may also decide that money, to paraphrase Cindy Lauper, will change everything.

The longing to be saved is understandable, but it will prevent you from discovering your power to help yourself. Maybe you believe deep down that if someone were to show up and give you all the answers and resources you need, you would finally feel lovable and worthy of being saved. But this Cinderella-like desire to be suddenly recognized as important, wonderful, and deserving can be fulfilled today - by you! You need only to decide that you are all that you want to be. Embrace and savor the part of you that is attractive, strong, and a valuable person. When you feel good about yourself, your eyes will open to all the opportunities you have to solve your own problems and create a happy, fulfilling life.

Not being rescued can be frustrating. After struggling for a long time, anyone would hope for a break. But if you become so desperate for relief that you grasp at the first chance you have to procure a better job or partner, inevitably, you will end up with just as many problems as you had before. In fact, many of your problems will be the same ones that drove you to your sudden decision. When a new situation ends up looking just like the old, it's because you haven’t changed. As the saying goes: "Wherever you go, there you are." Your circumstances will always reflect what is happening inside of you. Instead of looking for a rescuer outside of yourself, look for him (or her) within.

As grim as things may seem right now, the moment you commit to be your own rescuer is the moment your life begins to shift. You possess the ability to determine the circumstances of your life. Now, you don't have complete control over everything. You are not an island. Other people's choices will affect you. At the same time, you also aren't as powerless as you might think. If you're looking for someone to change your life for the better, you are denying your own ability to get the job done yourself.

No matter how tired you are, no matter how hard it is to have faith that you have what it takes to solve your problems, let go of the belief that you need someone else to save you from suffering. Embrace your power. You don't need to have any clue about how to achieve what you want for yourself. You only need to be aware of what you want and then create the feelings you would experience if you had already attained it. Envision yourself in the perfect relationship, job, and home. Relish every moment of the imaginary experience you’re playing out in your mind. As you do, generate feelings of confidence, joy, tranquility, and gratitude. You will transform the quality of your energy. In response, the universe will make manifest what was once just a fantasy in your mind. You'll have clarity about what you need to do, and soon come to realize that you are in the process of rescuing yourself from your unhappiness. Celebrate the arrival of your knight in shining armor—your true, powerful, deserving self!

Author's Bio: 

Peggy McColl is the author of the New York Times bestseller Your Destiny Switch. She is a much sought after motivational speaker and goal achievement coach. This article is adapted from her book The Won Thing, copyright 2009, www.TheWonThing.com