Being the Chooser: Your Guarantee to Finding the Love of Your Life

Do you take the initiative to go and get what you want? Or do you find yourself reacting to people and situations? Perhaps you have been conditioned to please others, or never received encouragement to take risks. Maybe you’re a person who feels powerless about influencing your outcomes so you let other people in your life make all the choices. You may be so afraid of failure that you don’t even try.

There is a better way :Be the chooser. When you become the chooser something amazing happens in your life: you take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. You are in charge of creating what you want in your life. You literally move from the passenger seat to the driver’s seat in the vehicle that is your life. Think about what that means.

Being a chooser will help you to see your life from the inside out. In other words, you create the life experiences based on your criteria for living a fulfilling life. It is not about being selfish – it is about being self-Full. You are not driven by other people’s opinions, expectations or wants. You have a clear vision for your life and relationship and you are not willing to compromise for less than you deserve. Why would you?

There is a story you may have heard from the 1001 Arabian Tales, where a King married and then killed his new bride every night. Scheherazade, his last bride stayed alive by recounting stories. One of those stories is about a prince who was in search of his perfect bride. He had his craftsmen build a doorway with the silhouette outline of his perfect woman.

All the single females of the kingdom were required to pass through the door. As you can imagine, some were too tall and had to stoop to pass under the doorway. Others were too thin; some were too wide and had to pass through the doorway sideways. The point is, thousands of women passes through the door until one day a woman stood there with no gaps showing…she fit perfectly into the mold he had created for his perfect mate.

The lesson is a profound one for singles who have a clear understanding of their relationship requirements and needs. When you take the time to figure out the attributes of your ideal partner and ideal relationship, you can build your own mold. When you someone doesn’t fit your mold, why would you feel upset? You wouldn’t- because you are a chooser!

As a chooser you also realize that the person you wish to attract will want to be with you and will love you because of who you are – not in spite of it. The more you are authentically you, the more you drive your life, based on where you want it to go, the easier it will be for the love of your life to find and connect with you. So, be the chooser!