“Belittling Yourself Doesn’t Help Anything”

“In Fact, It Creates a Terrible Life”

I had a person come to me yesterday that lives in the UK, she is upset with her life and she was putting herself down. Almost every word out of her mouth was a negative thought about herself.

Does Negative Self-Talk Help?

When we have negative self-talk going on all the time we start a downward spiral of thinking. If we say “I Am Not Pretty” or “I Will Never Get Married” or “I Will Never Have Kids” and on and on. Where do you think that kind of thinking leads?

We are Impressing Negative Self-Talk on our Unconscious Mind

Our unconscious mind is picking up all that negative self-talk and taking it in and we unwittingly make our life according to that negative self-talk. This young lady has gone on lots of dates… but no one was interested. But does anyone really want to be around someone who is really negative all the time? No of course not! Most people want to be around someone who is uplifting, loving, giving, caring, kind, who see the good in all things. No wonder none of her dates ever lead to a relationship… it’s all a self-fulfilling prophecy.

We Can Make Changes!

She also hates her job and because of that she is always upset at work and hates all the people at work… and she gets sick all the time. Again if we see the good in all things… we start to love people at work… and love what we do… and eventually, we start to love our job.

Looking at the Good is Super Important

Once, I worked in a laboratory and I did not like it all. But I stuck it out and got used to it, and learned to love all the people and what I was doing. And when I left they were so sad to see my leave. They felt I was indispensable… and I was sad to leave. So it all worked out in the end… because I was willing to see the good in all things.

I recommended that she do some counseling and make some changes… and now it’s up to her.

So What Are You Going to Do About Your Negative Self-Talk?

Many Blessings to Everyone!

Dr. Paul Haider