Blame is one of the biggest issues that we come up against in our daily life. We seem to have gotten the idea that the world is there to make us happy. And when that doesn’t happen we lay the blame out in the world as well, through other people, places or events that we think are the cause of our unhappiness.

Everything we feel comes from within us. We create it and we live through it. If we create unhappiness for ourselves the world will show us that unhappiness, but if we create joy, peace and love for ourselves, this is what we will see reflected back.

So, how does blame fit in to this mix? Simply, it doesn’t. When we get angry at another person for doing something that brings up our anger, fear or hurt, we are doing nothing more than projecting the anger we feel at ourselves for not taking better care of what we are feeling, for not nurturing our own self and if necessary standing up for ourselves from that tranquil, peaceful place inside.

We have choices. We don’t always think we do. But there are always choices – we sometimes would rather take the easier of the choices, the ones that keep us in our comfort zone. But how comfortable is it really when we are then triggered by someone else’s behaviour?

Sometimes we just have to go beyond our comfort zone which may mean facing some things about ourselves that we don’t like. Perhaps we are feeling like a victim and don’t stand up for ourselves or speak up when we are not feeling respect. Maybe we are afraid of a situation so we run away from it instead of empowering ourselves by facing it with inner strength.

Whatever the issue is, we have a choice every day to face it with fear, anger, guilt, or shame or with love, compassion, and peace. We can take responsibility for our own emotional wellbeing or we can give that power to someone else and then resent it.

How will you walk into your day?

Author's Bio: 

Bettina Goodwin is a Certified Life Coach, Reiki Practitioner and facilitator who has experience working with children, teens and adults in a wide variety of personal, family and relationship issues. Her background and training of four years of personal growth work, training and certification followed by case studies give her the tools necessary to delve into the core issues that are causing concern for her clients.

Bettina conducts individual, couple or group sessions in person, via phone, Skype or email.