When a habit is formed, it contains the consciousness you were in when it was developed. The self-image you had and the quality of self-trust you had when it was developed automatically define the quality of the habit. So the simple way to break a bad habit is self-development. Simply by developing the habits of these life skills, you will be conscious enough in a week to avoid falling into the trap of your bad habit. Only you have the power to control this internal phenomenon.
When you change your self-image and develop self-trust, the bad habit just doesn’t feel comfortable to rest your consciousness in. Developing these life skills in a conscious way makes a bad habit become like an old shoe that doesn’t fit and is easily not worn.
If you recognize a state of consciousness that was at the root of the habit and it doesn’t serve you, it is in your power to change it. Negative habits are mostly developed by a negative self-image. That is the part of you that feels comfortable in that habit. Maybe you are not comfortable with the habit, but your negative self-image is not motivated to change it.
By developing the life skills representing the most conscious part of you, you can change any part of you that has a limiting perspective. Let me share with you some examples of how this works. I once worked with a person who named his negative self “Anger” and his positive self “Lover”. Imagine this person in a relationship challenge. If he identified with “Anger’s” conditioning, their interactions would be so different than if he identified with “Lover”. This change of his self-image may not remove the relationship challenge, but it would change the way he approached any relationship.
When I worked with Vietnam veterans with PTSD, one veteran named his negative self “Killer” and his positive self “Happy.” When he had to go to work, it was important for him to develop the habit of identifying with “Happy.” His negative self-image, “Killer” did not create a good team member. If he had the ability to simply his self-image, he would have the ability to avoid a lot of stress and confusion at work. Sometimes, all it takes is to change a life skill like a self-image so that it changes how you approach your challenge at work.
Now let’s look at how self-trust influences our relationships. We can either trust our deeper wisdom or we trust the creations of our mind. When we trust our past conditioning, we roll like an octagonal wheel. In other words, our conditioning is who we think we are. This makes relationships difficult and unable to change. If we identified with our deepest inner wisdom, we could go beyond rigid thinking and try to adapt consciously to the situation before us.
Once we leave the conditioned mind, we have a direct access to our heart and our deepest wisdom. In the silence beyond our thoughts is the source of incredible experience. This experience is ignored, because most people are focused on their thoughts and that is where their awareness stops. Transcending thoughts eliminates the influence of the thoughts that limit you. In fact, in that silence, ego doesn’t exist. There is only wisdom responding to a higher consciousness than thinking. This silence and the experience that exists there is the source of an ultimate love. It is the home of powerful inner resources and the essence of who we are. The task of connecting to that depth has to be everyone’s priority.
Becoming this conscious is the way you can break a habit within a week. Accept this depth and habits fall away like a snake sheds its dead skin. Holding onto “the known,” is like embracing your mind-made reality. From your mind-made reality, old habits are at home and are hard to change. We need to be conscious of our thinking and be conscious of that depth of silence. That is the power of a conscious breath. Breathing is giving life to that inner silence. Unfortunately, most people breathe into their thoughts and silence is ignored. Breathing into silence allows your out-breath to manifest the quality silence holds. A conscious breath has the ability to keep you in the moment without ego’s interference.
© 2011 Marc Lerner and Life Skills Institute
Marc Lerner and Life Skills Institute help you develop the Life Skill habits that empower you to break bad habits. Go to: http://lifeskillsinc.com for a link to the archived radio show that teach you these skills. Also, personal tele-seminars can teach you how to develop these life skills.

Author's Bio: 

Marc Lerner is the President of Life Skills Institute and has been working with people in a health struggle since 1982. He is the author of A HEALTHY WAY TO BE SICK, which teaches you how to consciously create yourself in the midst of a health challenge. You can view a mini-copy of this book at: http://ahealthywaytobesick.org He also conducts tele-seminars that lead you through the main techniques of this book, where you will do over 20 experiential techniques on your own to support the main techniques.
Marc has had MS since 1981, is legally blind and in a wheelchair. The idea of a healthy way to be sick reflects a positive spirit during difficult times. If a patient consciously approached the healing process, they would become valuable partners with their doctor. Marc has been working with people in a health crisis for decades and knows that this is a significant resource in a national health plan. Marc has developed simple techniques that transport your consciousness to powerful inner resources which can reduce medical expenses and personal anxiety.
Marc Lerner and Life Skills Institute is open to network with other people dealing with health challenges or any challenge you cannot control. Marc can adapt the Life Skills Approach to meet any challenge. Struggles have one incredible quality; if you approach them consciously, they can force you to grow.