Bridging the Manifesting Gap

Here’s a place I suspect we’ve all visited at some point or another; the place between where we are and where we want to be, aka The Manifesting Gap. It’s the place between recognizing a new desire, doing the manifesting work to bring it about, and yet not experiencing it in our physical reality. Nothing’s changed; nothing’s happening. For some, this is where it starts to feel bleak. Although I’ve written on this subject before, it’s worth repeating how to handle this gap. These are the two questions I usually get from those who are frustrated while hanging out in the gap:

1. At what point do I throw in the towel? I mean, it’s been 6 weeks (or months or years) already - how long am I supposed to keep doing this?
2. What am I doing wrong? I must be doing something wrong, since nothing’s happening!

This post addresses the first question; a follow up post will spotlight the second. Here’s what I know about the law of attraction: it doesn’t take long for things to start happening. Patience is not a required virtue in deliberate creation. So if you’ve been at it for six weeks and still nothing’s happening, I’m guessing one of two things is afoot. Either you’re not seeing what is happening (blind to the evidence - which is easy to do when we’re focused on the “problem”), or you’re simply not dialed in vibrationally like you think you are. This is time for an evidence check as well as a vibrational assessment. Vibrational Assessment: Someone who thought she was doing all the right vibrational things to call in her sweetheart realized (after I asked) that in between her pray rain journal entries and sleeping on her side of the bed next to a closet that was kept half empty for her incoming guy, she was feeling unhappy about her solitary life . (For the record, being unhappy is not aligned to the happiness she knew she’d feel once in her sweetie’s arms.) No, you don’t have to get it 100% dialed in on the right vibe before you can expect results, but know that if you’re still largely sitting on misaligned feelings (outside of short manifesting techniques), Universe is answering your dominant instruction. And I know how easy that is to do. Esther does it, my first LOA mentor coach does it, I do it … you’ve got good company. No need to feel bad about it! But you can clean it up.

For clients who tell me they really ARE in vibrational alignment with what they want, and yet nothing’s happening, my response is, “Okay, so what’s the problem?” (Because if we’re really feeling it now, we no longer need that thing to happen. It becomes a moot point.) Inevitably they explain the problem (there always is one, or they wouldn’t have hired help for it). And guess what? In explaining the problem, they reveal their lack of vibrational alignment. Because if were feeling now how we would feel then (which is what vibrational alignment is), we wouldn’t be feeling the “problem,” right? Rather, we’d be happy or feeling good or free or secure or whatever else our desired result would elicit.

So this is a reminder to get real with ourselves about what we’re truly flowing vibrationally. (Boy, how often do you hear me say “get real”?! Not often!) Second, as mentioned, the issue could be more of just not seeing what really IS happening. Evidence Check: If you’ve seen TED speaker Michael Shermer show the perception video based on David Simon’s research, you know how easy it is to not see something that’s right under our noses if we’re not specifically looking for it. (Email me for the video clip - it’s classic!) I once heard a friend complain about lack of support in her life, after she had just finished recapping how her neighbor let her borrow his car, her bishop offered financial help with her son’s medical expenses, and her employer agreed to flex hours. Uh … lack of support?! You’re drowning in it, girlfriend! I’ve done the same thing myself: particularly attuned to evidence that Russ does NOT respect me, when someone else can easily see all the ways that he does. It’s a pretty fascinating phenomenon. Which you can put to work on your behalf, by simply intending to see the proof that things ARE going your way; that things ARE happening. We get what we look for, so if you can help from dismissing the signs you think are too small to count, you’ll be well on your way to letting in the “bigger” signs as well. Stay tuned for the second half of this post later this week, and in the meantime, you know I’d love to hear your thoughts on this popular topic!