Can You Hypnotize Your Kids to Build their Self-Esteem?

The answer seems to be, "YES!" So if you are a concerned parent who truly understands the value of developing your child's self-esteem, this article will prove to be very valuable.

Self-Esteem is your child's internal barometer as to how they see themselves. It is the core value or worth they place upon themselves. Self-Esteem is the primary resource affecting the degree of happiness or unhappiness, success or failure your child will experience in the world. Without a high, healthy self-esteem your child is doomed to a life of mediocrity.

Hypnosis was approved by the American Medical Association in 1957. It is a wonderful, psychological tool, sadly misunderstood by parents. The "Kids in Trance Program" teaches parents how to contact and reprogram their child/teens subconscious mind for creating positive changes in both behavior and lifestyle.

Over the years there has been plenty of misconceptions and misinformation about hypnosis. The word itself conjures erroneous images of: spells, mind manipulation, total loss of oneself, total loss of control, and being under the power of a hypnotist. It's difficult to comprehend that some people still believe in such fabrications.

There are two types of hypnosis: Stage Hypnosis and Clinical/Professional Hypnosis. Stage hypnosis is the type most people are familiar with-- and hung up on. This type of hypnosis is used for entertainment purposes. This approach is usually for comedy with images of people barking like dogs or quacking like ducks. My program takes the clinical or professional approach to the hypnotherapeutic process. Meaning, this type of hypnosis is not used for entertainment but instead for problem solving purposes.

I believe it was Freud who coined the term "subconscious mind." Psychologists have long recognized that subconscious processes in children can be a very powerful tool used for positive change. Many believe it to be absolutely impossible to make any permanent, lasting change in human behavior unless that change is made first at that inner level.

After the inner change has taken place, the outer levels automatically follow suit. In other words it's faster and easier to enhance your child's self-esteem if you change it at a subconscious level.

In my Kids in Trance Seminars, I teach parents an amazing strategy called, "Sleep Programming." This tool is always well received and easy to use. Factually, it's so easy you can teach it to other parents needing help developing their kid's self-esteem. Many parents in my classes have reported fabulous results with this strategy. As I mentioned, it's very easy to use, but it must be done just right to be successful.

Within an hour before your child awakens in the morning, their brain is completely submerged in the suggestive state. Scientists, sleep experts and neurologists call this the "REM state." This means within an hour before our children awaken, they are wide open and receptive to the power of suggestion. It's actually very similar to sleep learning. I've capitalized on this time of the morning often and helped my children eliminate nightmares, nail-biting, do better in math, build their self-esteem, and solve many other problems. So try this psychologically sound strategy:

1. Within an hour before your child awakens quietly enter their room being careful not to awaken them. (If they wake up at 7AM enter the room at about 6:30AM.) Once in the room, in a soft, gentle voice say, "(Name) It's mom, keep sleeping!" The purpose of this is to program them to keep sleeping and not be disturbed by your voice. Remember if they open their eyes or awaken it will not work. They have to remain in the suggestive or REM state for positive results.

2. Now gently say to them, "If you can hear mom, move a part of your body." At this point you are to watch the entire bed to look for any movement. The moment you see any type of movement that means their subconscious is listening and they are ripe and ready for your help. If you do not see any movement state the suggestion again, but this time using a slightly louder voice. This is usually all you need. (On the other hand please be aware that I have had several parents tell me that they skipped this step and it worked any way. My comment is to do what works best for you.)

3. The moment you see any type of movement in the bed, immediately say to them using a soft, gentle voice, "You feel good about yourself! You're a good person and we're proud of you!" The entire process should take less than a minute. At that point as you quickly and quietly walk out of the room say, "Mommy loves you, wake up soon full of energy."

From that point forward see if you notice any changes. Many parents claim to see results or feedback within 3 days. I don't know what's so special about that 72 hour time frame, but for some reason results are noticed within that 3 day period. If the problem is solved you're done--great job! If not, wait till the third day and re-apply or reinforce the sleep programming again.

Sometimes the entire problem can be resolved in only one session. Sometimes only 50% or a portion of the problem is resolved. In this case, wait till the third day and re-apply or reinforce the process. In many cases if this does not help it's usually because the child was not at the suggestive level or sleeping deeper than normal. This can happen if they had a tough or stressful day prior. Sometimes heavy meals before bed can also cause this problem. You may have to wait to catch them at another time. However, there is no way this can backfire on you or have any negative effects on our children. The worse that can happen is nothing! However, this is a rapid, safe way to change your child's subconscious view of themselves, enhancing their self-esteem.

I recently spoke with a mother who told me that she used the sleep programming strategy to help her 10 year old son eliminate vomiting caused by his chemotherapy treatments. His chemo treatments for a form of liver cancer caused severe vomiting after, and sometimes before his treatment. The chemo was bad enough but the vomiting made everything seem worse. She told me she entered his room within an hour before he woke up and programmed him within this simple yet powerful affirmation, "The chemo leaves your stomach feeling calm." (By the way that was one of the most impressive positive affirmations I'd ever heard.) She told me she had to apply the strategy twice. The first time she noticed the vomiting was slightly less, but nothing significant. She figured it was just a coincidence. She waited for the third morning and reapplied the strategy and from that point forward the vomiting stopped completely. She was so impressed she started to teach other parents dealing with the same issue how to use the sleep programming strategy. They also noticed positive results!

I wish all of my stories and successes were always so positive and powerful. While the Kids in Trance Program does not replace medical attention nor is it a substitute for medical care; when I hear these kind of stories I always feel I'm on the right path.

Remember your child will never rise higher than their self-esteem allows. As parents we have a tremendous amount of power and obligation to help them reach their full potential and beyond. Our children are a reflection of who we are and our own works of art. Let's teach them that they are masterpieces.

Author's Bio: 

John Eric Jacobsen is a practicing hypnotherapist, consultant and motivational speaker for almost three decades. His research utilizing hypnotherapy with children and teens began when his then, four year old daughter, was dealing with some stress and anxiety issues. His hypnosis technique completely eliminated her problem without side-effects. He then began to work with other children, and the Kids in Trance Program was born.

The Kids in Trance Program is the only program of its kind effectively teaching parents how to use clinical hypnotherapy and auto-suggestion on their kids. It has helped children and teens with every issue imaginable. Issues such as: nail-biting, bed-wetting, headaches, peer pressure, weight control, thumb-sucking, fear of dentists, sports performance, test-anxiety, teeth grinding, hair pulling, nightmares, fear of the dark, habit control, shyness, asthma, potty-training, and many others.

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