The title of this topic can be a real sticking point for a lot of people.

“Can You Be Grateful for What You Have Not Got?”

Before we address that, let’s assume that you currently have a goal or vision for yourself that doesn’t presently exist.

For instance:

How can you be thankful for that great relationship, the extra $1000.00 in the bank or for weighing in at your target weight if your experience is anything but those things?

When someone pays you a compliment, buys you a gift or simply holds a door open for you—your response is “Thank You.” It’s an immediate response to an act of generosity. Everyone understands this.

Now think of a time you confided your relationship woes to a friend: he/she doesn’t understand me; we just aren’t connecting; he/she never listens; I don’t know how to get his/her attention, etc., etc.

You have not only confided your woes to a friend but you have affirmed to the Universe that your relationship is miserable. Now what happens?

You get more of what you affirm for yourself.

If you sincerely want help (with anything) you must stop focusing on any negative aspect of the situation. That doesn’t mean you have to deny “what is,” it means that you must take you FOCUS off what you don’t want and direct it toward what you do want.

Connect to your Infinite Source of Power—the Creative Juices of the Universe, then ASK for what you desire and prepare to RECEIVE by relating yourself to Your Source (God, Higher Self, Infinite Wisdom, whatever you associate with most readily) with deep and profound gratitude.

So how can you be grateful for something you have not got?


Let’s say you were in between jobs and before you start the new job you are short on funds and unable to pay your heating bill. It’s the middle of winter and you get a notice that your heat will be turned off if full payment isn’t received in three days time.

First, you may panic and sling a few choice expletives around the room. Next, you would take action and call a friend or relative that you could beg or borrow enough money from in order to pay your heating bill.

For the sake of this lesson, let’s say that your friend says, “Sure, I’ll bring you a check the day after tomorrow.” You gush with gratitude, promise to pay your friend back and breathe a sigh of relief.

Then you forget about that problem because it has been solved.

When you hang up the phone with your friend you are filled with gratitude for the assistance they have offered, correct? However, you do not have that money in your possession. Yet, you are already grateful for it. It is coming, but you have not got it.

This is exactly the way you need to establish your relationship with Your Infinite Source of Power. Your relationship with Infinite Intelligence is exactly the same. Once you ASK for help you should gush with gratitude, for what you have requested is most definitely on its way. Then stop worrying about what you have not got.

I’m sure you are familiar with the Law of Cause and Effect. For every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction. Therefore, your grateful outreaching to God (Your Source) creates an instantaneous reaction from God (Your Source) to YOU.

You are now responsible for receiving that which you have requested. Do not limit the manner in which it is to be delivered. Let the Universe handle those details.

That doesn’t mean you should just sit on the couch watching TV and wait for those extra pounds to just melt away in between the sofa cushions. There’s a little bit of creative teamwork involved here.


Tonight, before you go to bed, list as many things as you can think of that you are grateful for.

Write anything and everything that you are happy with today in your life or have ever been grateful for.

Write this sentence at the top of your page:


for chocolate ice cream

how much my dog loves me

for comedy

to have a movie date with my husband

for the guidance and perseverance to follow my heart

And so on. You get the picture.

Keep writing until you can’t think of even one more thing—then go to sleep. Do not watch the news or read anything negative from this point on. You are to go to sleep with a grateful heart.

Gratitude keeps you in close touch with your divine Source of Power. The closer you are to Your Infinite Source of Power, the more you will receive, the more you will be grateful, the more you will have to give.

Author's Bio: 

Schelli Whitehouse has a master’s degree in OCO (over-coming-obstacles) from the esteemed School of Hard Knocks, Planet Earth. She is an expert at helping others to step into the next highest version of who they really are as well as a pioneer of conscious evolution for the soul-o-preneur.