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Care For CareGivers

Written by Susan Derry

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Whether you are a mom with small children or you are now taking care of your mom, learning to take care of you first can be a challenge. There is a good reason airlines insist that, in the event of an emergency when traveling with small children or others needing care, that you put your on own oxygen mask first. If you cannot breathe you are not going to be of much use to those you are taking care of. Many caregivers tend to put their personal needs at the bottom of the pile. This can easily lead to physical and mental exhaustion. It can mean getting to the point where the caregiver simply cannot care any more. There is nothing left to give. If you were to drive your car and not take time to fill the gas tank, you would end up having to take more time to somehow get gas to the side of the road when your car died. This would be inconvenient, but fairly easily fixed. If you also neglected to check the oil and ran the car until the oil was gone and the engine seized up, your car may never run again. In the short run if you do not take care of your self as a caregiver, your body may slow you down by becoming ill. And if you keep pushing long after there is nothing left to give you may end up completely burned out. You may find yourself feeling negatively about yourself, those you care for and your life. You may find yourself withdrawing from family and friends, spending too much time on the internet, watching television, reading or self medicating with food or substances. Discipline yourself to put on your oxygen mask first and keep yourself breathing. The following are some ideas to help get you started: Watch Your Attitude. Make meeting your needs a priority and set healthy boundaries. Surround yourself with positive people and SMILE. Strive for excellence, not perfection. Take Care Of Your Body. Reduce caffeine and alcohol consumption. Eat a healthy diet and exercise at least three times a week. Go for walks, take the stairs and move your body. Get enough sleep. Take Time To Relax. Find a hobby you can enjoy. Take time for personal reflection and meditation. Slow down and enjoy this moment right now. Get a massage or find other ways to relax. Have A Support Network. Share your feelings with loved ones. Spend time with friends and family other than those you are caring for. Find someone positive to talk to or join a support group. Time Management. Plan and delegate. Prepare for tomorrow today, so that you feel on top of things. Schedule time for yourself into your day and honor that time for you. To fortify yourself against burnout take care of your personal health, build a support network, reduce your stress, take time for you, and plan your life so that you count too. Take care of yourself, so that you have something to give those you love and care for.

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Susan Derry, B.Ed., M.S.Psy., R.P.C., C.P.C.
Professional Counselor & Life Coach
Co-author of Marriage Prep: Beginnings a downloadable marriage preparation course
Co-author of Intimate Sex: Manual for Lovemaking, a sex manual for couples
Offers a free Nurturing Marriage Ezine

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