INTRODUCTION

If you have been in the dating-game for quite a long time now and still are not successful to develop a successful intimate relationship, maybe it’s time for you to change tactics. Having the courage to do things differently may prove to be “the right way” to succeed in finding a partner and developing the relationship you so much desire.

HAVE YOU BEEN TRYING TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP – BUT FAILED TIME AND AGAIN?

By now you might have tried a variety of ways to find a partner and develop an intimate relationship: you enrolled in on-line dating sites; you shaped your profile; you rehearsed, over and over again, those “first lines” to blurt on a blind date. You went on several such dates, presenting the “better sides of you”, hoping that all these attempts will finally help you to start and keep a relationship.
But so far you didn’t succeed in making your dream come true.

WHAT CAN YOU DO DIFFERENTLY – AND SUCCEED?

If in spite of your attempts you haven’t been successful so far in finding a partner and establishing the relationship you so much desire, continuing doing the same of what you have been doing until now will keep you in the same situation.

So maybe you need to think about a new approach. Halloween can be the best opportunity to try it. After all, Halloween is a time of playing trick or treat; a time of costumes and masks; a time of allowing oneself to be somebody different than always.

So why not decide, for a change, to BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE on Halloween? Instead of wearing a mask, take yours off, decide to give expression to all your traits and sides – and go on a date free of fears, allowing yourself to “play yourself”, for a change?

WHAT DO GOOGLE, FACEBOOK AND TWITTER HAVE IN COMMOM?

The founders of Google, Facebook and Twitter – each in their own right – dared to do things “their way”, even though their way was not the customary way of doing things. Their courage to do things their way proved a success. They listened not to experience of others, but to their own creativity and intuition. They knew they had nothing to lose. There is nothing to lose so long as there is nothing gained. Could they have achieved what they did by doing things “the customary way”? NO.

Apparently THEIR WAY proved to be THE RIGHT WAY!

YOU CAN BE THE FOUNDER OF YOUR OWN SUCCESS-STORY

If by now you have been trying all you could to meet people and start a relationship and in vain; if you’ve listened to dating-experts telling you to go on as many dates as possible; to profile-design-experts showing you how to build and present your profile; to books and coaches telling you how to practice saying “the right words” during first date – and still you don’t have a relationship – isn’t it time you do things more creatively? Isn’t it time you create your own success story?

CREATIVITY AND COURGAE

Ask yourself:

* What’s the worst that can happen if you’ll change your approach?
* If you’ll follow your inner-feeling about how to present yourself to the dates you meet?
* If you allow yourself to be “who you really are”?
* If you go by what feels right to you rather than by what others say you need to go by?
* What do you have to lose that you haven’t lost by now?
* What do you have to lose if you haven’t gained anything yet?

“JUST DO IT!”
As Nike’s slogan says: “JUST DO IT!”

HALLOWEEN; A TIME WHEN THE RULES CAN BE CHANGES

Halloween is a time that allows people to “play”; to wear costumes; put on masks.
The dating-game isn’t called that way just for nothing: many play-the-games by the game-rules: what is or isn’t allowed; what is or isn’t customary; what is or isn’t a “wise” move. All these “rules” have been written down by those who believed this is the way to doing things.
Is it?
If it was, wouldn’t you have found by now your partner and established the relationship you so much desire?

FRANK SINATRA: “MY WAY!”

It’s not surprising that Frank Sinatra’s “I Did it My way” is so famous. Who wouldn’t want to do things according to one’s own way?
If until now you have been playing the dating-game according to “others’ way” – isn’t it time you try it YOUR WAY?

CLINT EASTWOOD: “MAKE MY DAY!”

So make YOUR day. Your date. Your relationship.
JUST DO IT!

Author's Bio: 

Doron Gil, Ph.D., is an expert on Self-Awareness and Relationships with a 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counselor and consultant. He is the author of more than 100 articles on the subject and of: “The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship”: www.amazon.com/Self-Awareness-Guide-Successful-Intimate-Relationship/dp/...

More on Dr. Gil, his book and articles: http://self-awareness-and-relationships.blogspot.com