For the past several years when anyone would ask me to tell them a little about myself I would always being by telling them how I am a mother of 2…..I am very proud of being a mother. While my children have not discovered the cure for any disease or end world hunger to me they are the reason why I wake up every day, the reason why I breathe.

Now I am beginning the empty nest phase of life with my youngest scheduled to leave the nest in the next few months. I am preparing myself my empty nest phase or as I like to refer to it AC life after children.

Initially I was concerned after all the past years I have always made decisions based on “what is in the best interest of the children”. Well pretty soon I will not to make decisions like that. I will get a chance to be selfish. I have an opportunity to re invent myself. I feel lucky to get a chance to do that, not everyone is able to see things like that. I will be able to take chances and not always play things safe. I do not regret the decisions I have made. If I had to do things over again I probably would make the same decision.

So now here I am, with no restrictions so my plan is to get out of my comfort zone, get out of my little box. Not sure where I would start exactly since the sky is the limit. There are many areas that I can see need work, a whole lot of work too. I have decided to start with work. If you think about it we spend most of our waken hours at work. Personally I spend about 12 hours daily at work, sometimes I work when I get home, and also on weekends. That is an awful lot of hours when you are not doing something you enjoy. I fell into the technology field in since it paid well, and I had 2 children to take care of. Well now with the youngest one almost out the nest I can take more chances. I will also cut back on expenses too.

Relationships is another area I will work on too. Most of my acquaintances were made around one of my children activity. Again, there is nothing wrong with that but I want to have my own identity outside of being “so and so mother”
These changes and any others I come up with will not happen overnight I intend to enjoy the process to become a new and improve person. I will emerge out of my cocoon just like a little butterfly. I do not know what I will become but I do know there will be changes to come.

What kind of changes would you like to make?

Author's Bio: 

Carmen is a New York native, most recently transplanted in Texas. Carmen is the single mother of 2 children, the youngest will be living home this summer. After a life dedicated to raising her children she now finds herself facing an Empty Nest.

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