Our History
When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This included all forms of abuses: sexual, physical and emotional. Having no rights, we were groomed to be compliant, to obey, to serve, to not speak up, to not have a voice, and generally be an extension of the man. Both church and state enabled and didn’t interfere with this paradigm.

There were start and stop efforts, but the abuse laws did not really gain “teeth” until around the middle to late 20th century. Around this time, money was allocated to professionals and agencies to identify abuse, educate people about abuse, and begin to enforce the laws which made it illegal. It would be nice if once a law was passed, it would be obeyed, but as we can see almost a century later that is not the case. We still have large systems (e.g. Catholic Church and military) where they are allowed to “take care of their own” and thus these systems just enable the abuse to continue.

Belief Systems
Some of the belief systems that must be changed and challenged are:

I own you. I can sexually, physically, and emotionally abuse you. I am the stronger sex so I can overpower you and I will.
What I do in my home with my property is my business. This is a private matter and I don’t have to discuss it with anyone.
If I get into trouble for what I am doing it is not my fault. I will take it out on and blame you. (In Malaysia, if a man is arrested for a DUI, his wife may go to jail as well regardless of where she was at the time of the offense. Part of the paradigm that women are fighting.)
There are still countries that do not have strong laws to protect women and children. This fact enables men’s belief that “I own you.” It takes years to give laws “teeth” and change the belief system “I own you”.

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Author's Bio: 

Dr. Anne Brown PhD, RN of Sausalito, California, formerly from Aspen, Colorado is a psychotherapist, speaker, coach, and the author of Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No. For over twenty years she served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential Corporate leaders, Trial Attorneys, Athletes, Leaders, Physicians and their families whose connections extended far beyond Aspen, Colorado.

Combining her own professional experience with that of her no-nonsense mentor, the former Chilean Minister of Finance, political prisoner of Pinochet and corporate business consultant, Dr. Fernando Flores, Brown used a methodology that helped people reveal their blindness’s and learn to speak authentically thereby decreasing their suffering and increasing their dignity and authenticity. Brown has been described by one client as “having a very caring way of going for the jugular.”

Brown is a graduate of the University of Virginia, BS in Nursing; Boston University, MS in Psychiatric-Mental Health in Nursing; and International University, PhD in Addiction Studies. In 1997 Brown also reached a personal goal of obtaining her Black Belt in Soo Bahk Do.

You can contact Dr. Anne Brown through her website: www.BackbonePower.com