Ask yourself how well do you really know your kids? Do you know their favourite T.V. show, favourite singer or group, do you even know their favourite genre of music, or something as simple as their favourite colour. You would be surprised by the amount of parents or caregivers who do not know the answer to these questions. Think about it, how many kids these days spend their time…….. watching television, playing video or computer games, playing sports or other activities., while the parents are doing their thing. Many kids are rushed from one event to another, rushed home at the end of the day and into bed they go. So where was the bonding connecting or conversation time?

If we must insist on these crazy schedules for our kids and ourselves why not make the best of the time and get creative on ways to actually connect and really get to know your child. Consider using the time while driving home to and from school or activities, to have conversations with your child. Turn the radio off and listen to what they are actually saying. Ask them what interesting things happened at school, what they are working on at school, or what was the best part of their day. If they only give you one word answers don’t take it personal, give them time to open up. Tell them something about your day that they can connect to.
When in the car if they like music ask what their favourite song is, if it plays on the radio turn it up and have a sing along! This may embarrass them but who cares it’s fun and you are connecting!
When you are spending time at home, involve them in activities like cooking dinner, writing a grocery list, going grocery shopping, cutting the lawn or even dog walking. All of these activities are things that they have to learn anyway, so have fun doing them together. Allow them to be creative and think outside of the box with it. Humour is a great way to connect, share jokes or funny stories. Dance around the kitchen while listening to their favourite music.

A way in which I was always being connected with my kids was by writing them little love notes.
If I was going out for the night or the day and leaving them at home, I would always leave a sticky note on their wall beside their bed. Saying something like “I think you are so amazing!” or “I love you all the way around the world and back!” Just a little note to let them know they are so important and loved very much. Sometimes I put sticky notes in their lunch bags or late at night I would stick it inside their agenda and they would get it at school the next day. Stop for an ice cream or a dollar store treat out of the blue, just for a little surprise.
Show an interest in what they are interested in. If you see something in a magazine or on social media that is something you think they may be interested in, keep it and share it with them. At night spend a bit more time with them when you are saying goodnight. This is often the time when children will open up. So sit on the edge of the bed and get ready for a chat that ends with a hug and an “I love you!”

It doesn’t take much just a bit of thought and creativity. But it means a whole lot and the message it sends speaks volumes. It lets you child know they are important, you enjoy their company and they are loved. All of these are great for developing confidence and self-esteem, which we all want our kids to have…..right?

Author's Bio: 

I am a Law of Attraction Life Coach and a Counselor

I have many years of experience working with children and parents in the Children’s Aid facilitating the PRIDE course. I have worked in a group home setting and school setting. My experience covers facilitating peer groups of school age children, a peer support group of pregnant teens. Many years of my experience has been working with special needs kids, with mild intellectual delays to many variations of the Autism spectrum. I am the proud, sole parent of 2 terrific teens.

I help families become happier and healthier by empowering and teaching parents and children better communication skills, positive parenting strategies and the importance of healthy lifestyle choices.