Dating After Going Through A Divorce

If you've been through a marriage or serious relationship breakdown, it can be very hard to get back onto the dating scene. It could be many years since you last went on a date, and it can seem intimidating to start right back at the beginning again with someone new.

There are no hard and fast rules about when you should start daing again. It's generally a good idea to wait until you're over your ex and feel good about yourself - a divorce often makes people lose confidence, but jumping into a relationship to make yourself feel better is not a good idea in the long run.

When you're ready to start dating, go into it with an open mind. You might feel pressure to find a new partner because you miss all of the things you could do when you were part of a couple, but it's important to get to know people and not rush into anything.

The places where you used to find dates - pubs or clubs for example, might not feel right for you now. Joining societies is a good way to meet new people, or even using an online dating site. Remember, you've changed a lot during and since your marriage, so take time to get to know yourself and don't put pressure on anyone you might meet or any new relationship you might have.