Dealing with Compliments
Written by Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski
What do you do when someone gives you a compliment? Do you smile, thank them with all your heart, and continue on with your day feeling a little better about yourself?
Or maybe instead, you shrug. Or deny it. Or claim it’s a lie.
Maybe you don’t say anything at all, but silently tell yourself that it’s not true. You say “They’re just trying to make me feel good”, “They want to get on my good side”, or even “I wonder what they want from me”.
Did you ever stop and think, “Wow, someone just took a little bit of time out of their day to pay me a compliment”? They didn’t have to say anything. They could have easily nodded at you and continued on without a word.
That person obviously noticed something extraordinary about you and felt they needed to let you know exactly how wonderful you really are or how well you do something. They wanted to express the way they truly feel about you.
What happens when you compliment someone and they blow you off? For example,what if one of your friends got a new haircut and you thought it took 10 years off? You tell them they look amazing, and they say “Yeah, right”. You protest that you really think it looks great, and they tell you to quit lying.
Does that make you ever want to compliment that person again? Does that make you see that person differently? When someone you admire blows off a comment without even the smallest shred of gratitude, do you still look up to them as much? Can you honestly still think they’re living life to its full npotential?
Be fabulous. When someone pays you a compliment, let it soak in. Don’t boast, don’t become self centered, but know that the person you are or whatever you did was exceptional. Smile, say thank you, and whole-heartedly accept it.
Praise is something one needs to earn. It is not given out to those who don’t deserve it. When you work hard at something, excel in some area, or strive to be a better person, you are worth it. Don’t deny yourself the satisfaction of a job well done. Be true. Be you. Be fabulous.
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About the Author
Husband-and-wife psychology team and Internet marketers Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and Jim Sniechowski, Ph.D. pioneered a heart-based approach to Soft Sell Marketing. They’ve taken nthat approach into producing “Bridging Heart and Marketing” - their unique, first-time-ever Internet marketing conference dedicated to the specific needs of the Soft Sell marketing community - for whom the typical hard sell "hype" doesn't fit.
By Soft Sell they’re referring to all the personal growth, healing and life-enhancement providers who market services and products. Unlike typical hard sell tactics, Soft Sell Marketing reinforces a caring and trustworthy relationship between marketers and the prospects and customers they want to attract.
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