Dear Dr. Romance:

I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and how about my love how do I forget it that she is married and I am single.

Dear Reader:

Be very careful with a crush on a student's mom. You could jeopardize your career, if you act in an inappropriate manner. You are not in love, you are just infatuated. It's not love until it is returned. You have to give it up, because she is married and out of bounds in other ways, too.  Your crush is unhealthy, and means you risk not doing what you need to do to find a more appropriate relationship. Dating: The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting will help you let go of this inappropriate obsession, and learn how to go about meeting a more appropriate woman for a real relationship.

If you truly want to help this woman, recommend that she get counseling for herself and her daughter-in-law.  "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" will help your student's mother reconcile with her daughter-in-law.

Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today  will help you get out and find the relationship you really need.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.