Dear Dr. Romance:

I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice on how I should tell her?

Dear Reader:

You don't need to worry about telling her you have feelings for her.  Just invite her out to do something fun, to the next basketball game, to a dance, or to study together.  She'll figure out for herself that you have feelings.  Take it slowly, one step at a time, and you'll be fine.  Read  "Guidelines for Successful Dating" for more help.  Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today will take you step-by-step through the process of dating, from getting yourself ready, to how to meet new people, to what to say and do on a date.  It's designed to make dating fun, safe and successful.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.