Dear Dr. Romance:

I saw your article "How to Avoid Financial Infidelity" about couples fighting over finances:

I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't separate the "math" from the "emotion!" Trust me we're gonna to have to sit down and be more business-like and professional for sure, what a great approach. I hope it helps.

Dear Reader:

Thank you.  I hope it helps, too.  Remember, you and your wife have created a behavior habit pattern, and it takes a while to change it. Have you tried talking with her about how you two negotiate money?   "How to Avoid Financial Infidelity" contains guidelines for money talks which can help you both be more rational and less emotional about money.  "Couples Can Cooperate for Suceess" can teach you skills for working together as partners.  Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage contains all the information, exercises and examples you need to recreate a loving partnership.

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.