Dear Dr. Romance:

is it normal to like the feeling of glass cutting your skin?

I like the feeling of getting cut.......this isnt good is it?...

Dear Reader:

You're right --it's not good. What it means is that you are emotionally numb, and looking for sensation to feel alive. The numbness is probably because you're suppressing feelings about bad things that
happened. You deserve a happier life. Therapy can help you figure out what's wrong and sort it out.  Please do yourself a favor and find a good therapist. My article  "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely"   will show you how to find a good therapist and get started.  You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.  They will help you find a knowledgeable therapist or group in your area that can help you.  It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction 
will help you understand what you're feeling and how to change it.

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.