Dear Dr. Romance: 
I'm in college in another country. I have relation with my girl friend since last 3 and half years ago. We have done sexual job in 4 times.  She is very honest and easy going girl. But she stopped her study. I have a good relationship with her still today, As long as I know she has no objection to marry me.
However, a few days ago her younger sister gave me her love proposal. She is also very beautiful and very inteiligent girl. Now I'm very thoughtful. Cos. I'm thinking that my girl friend sister will be best life partner of mine. Cos. she is very understanding girl.If she get financial support and advice then she will be doctor or engineer or ...
But it's not possible to tell my girl friend to forget me. She will be shocked after hearing this. I know it will not be a good job, but I have to think about my future. Her educational qualification is only Class nine. But I had warranted her in several times to continue her study. But Could't. Believe or not I was interested to bear her educational expense.
I want to do something that, she will forget me without any objection or any.....
Pls. send me yr advice to me. I'm very serious about this matter.

Dear Reader: 
It sounds like you are creating a giant problem for yourself here.  It's very inconsiderate and mean to switch from the older sister to the younger.  The whole family will be angry at you.  If you want to break it off with your girlfriend, then do it honorably.  Tell her you don't want to marry her if she doesn't get her education.  Let at least six months go by, then you can begin dating the younger sister, if she's willing.  Anything else will be creating a problem that will last for your lifetime.  Read "Stupid Cupid"  which will show you what really works in a relationship, and get you thinking more accurately.

You will also benefit from reading Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today.  Which can help you figure out what you really want in a mate.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.