Dear Dr. Romance:

I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. and me and the friend have talked bout a few times what it would be like if we went out and know it would be good cause we have similar interest and sense of humor and trust each other so much but i dont what to do so a little advice will help

Dr. Romance Replies:

Haven't you learned anything from the many other fiascoes of famous men who don't respect their relationships? You're about to create a disaster here. And I really don't understand what her best friend is thinking either. I'm glad she's not my best friend. She's more like a worst enemy.

Either break up with your girlfriend, and let some time pass before dating her friend, or just concentrate on fixing the relationship you've got. If you just act on your impulse, you'll ruin several friendships and create a big problem for yourself. Use your brain. "Stop Reacting and Start Relating" will give you some help in fixing your present relationship, if you should decide to do the right thing. How to Be Happy Partners: Working it out Together will help you understand what it takes to get what you want from a relationship.

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.