Discover a New Way to Tell Your Story

You know that old story you continue repeating, in your head and to others? The same old tune that's as worn-out as last year's slippers? And, about as comfortable, eh? What you’ve been repeating is most likely filled with past failures and present fears and limitations. It is really not serving you.

Dump that old worn out tune and discover a New “Story” about your life and begin repeating that, instead.

You could say: “How could I say I’m fine when I’m not?” Good question. The answer is in your focus. Find something to appreciate, there is certainly ALWAYS something to appreciate. For instance, the sunshine, that you can walk, that you have fresh water to drink. We tend to take so many things for granted, but there are many people on this planet without clean water to drink!

So, latch onto those things you can appreciate right this moment. Take baby steps towards a greater appreciation of more in your life. Then you have the option to start moving towards your desired future with ease.

If you focus on your fears or the bits of your past that upset you, that's what your life will be loaded with. Conversely, pay attention to what you would like in life, on what you appreciate in everyday life, and you get a lot more of that! It's the crux of the Law of Attraction.

So, how do you do develop a new story? It has several aspects to it, all have value. Let's examine.

*One is the speech you bring out for new people in your life, that one minute elevator story of woe and lack you may think of as your personal history. You all know what I’m talking about. What does yours sound like?

*Another is what you say when someone asks you how you’re doing. Do you trot out a litany of complaints or pretend all is fine and lie to be polite or take some middle ground?

*A third is your "self talk." The things you are saying to yourself, all day, every day. What are you repeating thousands of times each day to yourself inside your head??

It’s so tempting to complain, and so addictive, and once you get going, it can be nearly impossible to stop the downward spiral. So, don’t get started, or when you find yourself getting started, catch yourself as soon as you can.

Sure those bad, negative, sad things did happen, but, why dwell there? Why focus on that? As Dr. Phil is known to ask, “How’s that workin’ for ya’?” If it’s making you feel more empowered and happier in your life, read no further.

If not, spend some time over the next few days noticing each area of your story and just how you handle them. Then, start creating a new script focused more on the positive in your life. Start with one specific area to change, and watch yourself, do this one area only! Baby steps. Just relax! Don't get overwhelmed, it's too easy to quit then. You could even start off with an easy area, to give you faster results.

"Spin" your current story to a more positive version! Discover some appreciation lurking behind those complaints. Be grateful for the tough times for how strong they've made you. Appreciate the valuable lessons you've learned from them.

Take it slow. Each and every time you catch yourself reverting back to the original story, and you could, most of us do for a time, simply reaffirm the new ‘story’ and move on. It may take some time to make it sound real to your own ears. But change always feels a little awkward as it's happening. There's always an adjustment period for any change, even ones we look forward to.

Allow yourself the time to really feel good about this new ‘story’ that focuses on what you appreciate now, in addition to your dreams, your wants, on what you desire for your life.

Change won't happen overnight. Keep going with it. I promise you, you’ll feel better for it.

© Kim O'Hara