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Do Not Break Up, Its Only Your Relationship That Did!

Written by Enomfon Ntefon

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished June 12, 2013
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The question here is really,rnHow soon can I heal after a break up?rnThis is a major setback and it really does depend on several factors. After a breakup, you really have two choices. One, leave the healing to time. Two, take charge of the recovery process. The first method will take a long time, pain and suffering before healing. It is slow and torturous. The second method, taking control, will allow anyone to accelerate the healing process, learn fast and move on, leaving space to find healthier and more fulfilling love than ever before. You may need some guidance on the steps for a fast and productive emotional healing. We have never been taught how to heal emotionally, so when we go through an emotional situation we are on our own. We need a method, a successfully proven method for emotional healing. I have broken up before and so you are not alone and I wish for you to know that you can heal but how you heal depends on: 1. You ability to understand the reality of the situation. The more willing you are to face up to some facts such as a. I made a mistake or made a wrong choice. This excludes blaming yourself.rn2. I am responsible to clear this mess (this excludes fault-finding!)rn3. The willingness to clear up the mess it would involve something from me. Time, energy, resources and emotional reserves, even relationships etc…rnBut this is an opportunity cost, meaning. I must be ready to either pay this price or pass on a bigger mess to my children, to my future, and my destiny.rn4. I would add here and this is actually the first. Know yourself! When you are AWARE of your own emotional reactions, your thoughts around the experience and the interpretations that you made and the conclusions YOU make then you can through the emotional upheavals still be able to catch yourself, re-channel your thoughts and take action eventually based on reality and never your hurt feelings. You would still have those days, but your LOCUS of CONTROL is better and gets more firmer as the days go by. Before, I forget, get some “other googles on”. Get an experienced matured and godly friend to confide in. If you do not have such one, get a Relationship Coach.rnDo not go alone. This is not a “solo” journey. You need emotional and spiritual strength.rnNever forget, God’s Word. God will comfort and speak to you like not other can. Do share your thoughts, experiences and perspective on this. More to come on new post. Much love,rnEnomfon Ntefon Do join my radio show on Your Freedom Calls You Radio on "Bounce Back Fast From Your Setback onrnhttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/yourfreedomcallsyou1 You can follow my Blog at http://www.askenomfonntefon.com For how to bounce back faster through your breakup or any other relationship advice do contact Enomfon at www.winningrelationships.co.uk

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Rev Enomfon is an ordained Minister of the Gospel, a Relationship Transformation Expert, Bounce Back Coach. Marriage Mentor, International Speaker and Award-Winning Author. She has transformed hundreds of men and women in the past 20 years through her pastoring, mentoring, coaching, workshops, media shows, and packaged programmes.
Enomfon is passionate about creating self-awareness , accelerating healing and empowering women to take right and informed decisions in their relationship with themselves, with God, in other relationships such as dating, marriage, with money, in parenting and marketplace relationships.
Enomfon is Co-Director of Winning Relationships and Founder of Winning Woman In Relationships and Your Family Legacy, all in United Kingdom. She also co-pastor's The King's Mission in London with her husband, Rev Robert Ntefon.

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