Imagine yourself talking to a person, who keeps giving you compliments, agreeing with everything you say, behaving extremely kindly towards you... feels fake and weird? Of Course! We don't like getting fake compliments.
What do most guys do when they interact with a girl they are attracted to? They become FAKE. They might call it "being nice", but it doesn't change the fact that they are Not Being Themselves. You don't treat your friends with this Super Nice approach, so why should treat this way a girl that you hardly know?!
I would like to discuss 2 aspects here: Attraction and Rapport. Those are 2 elements that you need in order to become intimate with a woman.
Attraction
Women are attracted to social leaders, to successful men who have a high social value. rnAn easy and powerful way to create this attraction is to disagree with a girl, because it indicates that you have your own opinions and you are not afraid of telling your side.rnAn average man would think that agreeing with a girl will make her like you more. But that's just the opposite. When you disagree, you make her more attracted to you.rnThis is one aspect of attraction. If you want to learn about other male attractive qualities, your can check out my
article about Attractiveness.
Rapport
When it comes to Rapport (The feeling of trust and connection), we can compare dating to sales. If a salesman is acting too nice to us, we don't tend to trust him. We know his interst is to sell to us, and his nice behaviour doesn't look sencire. rnWhat tactics do successful salesman do to gain our trust? They tell us also the bad side. They don't always agree. They might ask "Maybe you don't need this product? Maybe it's too expensive for you?". And guess what? It makes us want the product even more.rnThe same is in dating. Women know that you want to have sex with them. If you behave too nice, it doesn't feel true. In addition to the lack of attraction, they feel that you are lying.rnSo what can you do about it? Again, it's good to disagree. To show that you are not just being nice, but also sencire and honest.
Does it mean that you always have to disagree? Of course not!
In many cases a girl might say things that you also agree with. That's O.K, and you don't just need to disagree with everything. But again, make it sencire. Tell her why you agree with her. Tell your side of the issue.
rnI want to end this article with another tactic that I recommend. When a girl tells you something that she likes or dislikes in other people, you can create an effect similar to disagreeing, even if you agree with what she said. How?rnLet's say that are talking to a girl, and she says to you: "I don't like when people gossip".rnShe is probably right. Gossiping is something negative. However, who doesn't gossip? It's natural to gossip.rnThe best answer to what the girl said would be: "I agree, gossiping is something negative. But I always gossip". You see? You didn't disagree, but you still make the same effect.
rnSo, don't just be a nice guy. Disagreeing is not only something natural and human. It will also help you to attract and connect with women.