Dr. Romance writes:

Valentine's Day gets a lot of media attention, and it can be hard to avoid. When you don't have a special someone to spend it with, or worse yet, you've just lost a relationship, it can be brutal.  If you're alone, it's important to take good care of yourself.  

Gather your best friends around you and make some special plans to have a wonderful day. Send valentines or personal notes to everyone who means a lot to you.  Or, create and celebrate Volunteer Day and use your energy and resources on behalf of people who need your help.  Volunteer to tutor students, help at a homeless shelter, or visit wounded veterans in the hospital.  Having a plan that makes you happy is the best way to fend off the blues.  Get together with friends or family, or go skiing or join a theater production!  Make your Valentine's Day a spiritual growth time, attending a ritual or workshop or gathering with close friends instead of being out with the crowds.  If you are clear about what will make the day special for you, and focus on that instead of what's not happening, you'll feel better about yourself and you won't have any reason to pity yourself. 

 Here are some Do's and Don’ts

DO: think about Valentine's Day in advance -- ask friends to join you, or find an activity that is meaningful to you.
DON'T: allow the occasion to sneak up on you
DO: Think about what will create the most meaningful experience for you. "Your Heart's Desire" can help you.
DON'T: focus on what everyone else might be doing.
DO: consider doing something different than usual -- this is a great time to try something new
DON'T: isolate -- unless you do it as a meditative experience.

Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today  can help you find your happiness.

Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.