Want to make sure your relationship is a success?  Here are ten ways to bring the sparkle back and keep it going.

Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage

1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other --about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, about your appreciation of each other, about the meaning of life, about everything.
2. Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up -- be a team, a partnership. Don't get stuck on who's right or wrong -- focus on what will solve the problem.
3. Keep your connection going -- through communication, sex, affection, understanding and concern for each other.
4. Have a sense of humor, give the benefit of the doubt, care about each other.
5. It's not about who's right or wrong it's about solving the problem together.
6. With listening, caring and the willingness to change, anything in your relationship can be fixed.
7. It's a partnership, stupid! Stop struggling, and learn to work together.
8. Behavior that enhances relationships with people at work, and with your friends, will probably work if you use it with your spouse.
9. What goes around comes around, in love as well as life.
10. Be a grownup, not a little kid.

Adapted from How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.