Early Deprivation: Can Someone Fear That They Are Going To Die If They Experienced Early Deprivation?

Even if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life.

However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be something that has a negative impact on their life. Yet, when it comes to the latter, this can be something that they just accept as part of life.

Hidden
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So, if they do fear that they are going to die and they are generally not aware of this, it is likely to be due to how they live their life. What this can mean is that they will live a life that is very restricted, for instance.

They might have had the same job for years, if not decades, and they might have lived in the same area for their whole life. Moreover, they might have been in the same relationship for a while, or they might have more or less always been with someone.

A Sense of Dissatisfaction

But, although the life that they lead might typically allow them to avoid what is going on for them at a deeper level, they can often feel frustrated, trapped and unfulfilled. During these moments, it can be as though something is missing.

Nonetheless, it might not be long until they put these feelings and the thoughts that go with them to one side and carry on as normal. Yet, there can be moments when something changes externally and they end up experiencing a lot of fear and anxiety.

All at Sea

If so, they will uprooted and unstable, and they might struggle to understand what is going on. What can enter their mind is that they simply suffer from anxiety.

The outcome of this is that they could end up going on medication. This might make it easier for them to function but it certainly won’t allow them to get to the bottom of what is going on for them.

The Trigger

What can play a part in the upheaval that they experience is a breakup, the loss of a loved one, or a job loss. The sense of security that was provided by something externally will have come to an end.

Consequently, some of the material that was outside of their conscious awareness will have entered their conscious mind. The trouble is that as they are not aware of what is going on when this takes place, they won’t be able to resolve what is going on.

The Next Stage

Having said that, there can come a point in time when they do become aware of what has been hidden inside them for however long. After something significant has taken place, they can not only experience fear and anxiety but they can feel as though their life is going to end.

There can then be terror and they can end up disconnecting from themselves. This will have taken place automatically to prevent them from being overwhelmed, and, thus, ensure their survival.

What’s going on?

At this point, it could be said that there is no reason for them to feel as though they are going to die after they experience a breakup, lose a loved one or lose their job. What they are going through is then going to be irrational.

But, if they were able to go back in time and see what it was like for them during their developmental years, what is going on for them as an adult might soon make complete sense. For example, throughout this stage of their life, they might have often been deprived of the attunement and care that they needed and been left.

A Brutal Time

This could be how it was for them practically from the moment that they were born or it might have taken place slightly later on. Either way, this would have been a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded.

When the care that they needed wasn’t provided, as they were powerless and dependent, they couldn’t change what was going on. Their only option would have been to disconnect from themselves.

Life and Death

At this time, then, they would have felt as though their life was going to come to an end and then what was going on for them would have been repressed and thereby, removed from their conscious awareness. Along with losing touch with how they felt and, over time, their body, they would have lost touch with reality.

This stage of their life would have been filled with moments when they felt like death was imminent, only for their brain to disconnect them from what was going on. Due to this, they wouldn’t have fully experienced what was going on for them.

The past is Present

As these experiences were not fully faced and resolved, what seemed like it was going to happen will now be seen as something that will happen. At the same time, they were not in a position to be able to face and integrate what was going on.

Taking all this into account, for them to no longer be controlled by what they experienced very early on and be able to freely express themselves, they are going to have trauma to resolve. This will take courage, patience and persistence.

Awareness
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If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.