In this article, I'll share with you the effects of unhealthy relationships. By knowing them you have a better chance to help yourself out.

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An unhealthy relationship is a kind of relationship that poses negative effects to the health of your body, the mind, and your entire lifestyle. This is a relationship that is unfit for anyone with positive ambitions in life.

There are so many people who have involved themselves in unhealthy relationships out there. Look around, you will see them. I remember in my previous article I explained clearly the signs of bad/unhealthy relationships. Go through that article before proceeding with this so that you can fully understand the signs. Knowing the signs will help you to know which kind of relationship you are in. You may be in an unhealthy relationship but you may have no idea if you are in one.

After you have known the signs, you can compare the signs with your relationship. That will be good in identifying the category of your relationship. We all have to know that unhealthy relationships have so many negative effects on our lives. If you never knew that, then in this blog post you will know the general effects of unhealthy relationships.

If you have realized that you are in an unhealthy relationship, you should start looking for a way out of that relationship. There is no need of sticking in a relationship that affects the health of your mind, body, and your lifestyle at large. These are the effects of an unhealthy relationship;

1. It causes stress.

That is the truth. We all know unhealthy relationship causes instability in someone’s health. Let me share with you the instances in which an unhealthy relationship can cause stress. For example, you are so much focused to see what is best in a person and what you end finding out is completely less of what you expected. Let say when you are in love with a person who drives you negatively. How can you know that someone is driving you negatively in a relationship?

If you find out that the person no longer cares about your existence than his or her self-motives. This can be the point of manipulation. When someone in a relationship starts to use you that is the first step you will realize that he or she driving you negatively. In a real sense, no one expects to be used up in a relationship. When you see couples out there loving each other without limits and expecting nothing from each other it can trigger feelings of loneliness in a person who is in an unhealthy relationship.

The feelings of loneliness that will inhibit someone’s head will cause stress. The act of someone being completely in need of something that he or she can’t have is so stressful. The worst thing about this is that you can’t control this situation. The more you control the situation in the relationship the more complicated you make it to be. This is what will make it so stressful. If you continue to stick in an unhealthy relationships it will cause more disaster than just emotional tensions.

2. Low self-esteem.

This will be definitely one of the effects of an unhealthy relationship. What is low self-esteem? Low self-esteem is the negative view someone has on himself or herself. This is the feeling of being unworthy before anyone. Someone will always think that is no need for him or her to exist. In short, the feeling of being less important before anything or anyone is what we refer to as low self-esteem.

How can an unhealthy relationship bring about low self-esteem? When someone is in an unhealthy relationship there is so much that can make him or her feel unworthy by the way he or she is treated by his or her partner. Not only the way he or she is treated by his or his partner but also the way his or her lover might be talking to her or him. As we all know a good relationship involves building and supporting each other while unhealthy relationships stand aside from all those positive features.

If you are in a relationship with a person who doesn’t see your worth he or she will never say anything or do anything for you that will make you feel important. The only thing that he or she can do is to discourage you and make you feel like a loser. If you have even a single doubt about yourself you will feel like everything that your partner is telling you is intensified. You will start to focus on the negative sides you have. You will rate yourself out of people who are important.

An unhealthy relationship will affect your personality completely. We all know what low self-esteem can do to anyone. There are so many negative things that can arise from it. Low self-esteem can make someone involve himself or herself in things that will harm his/her health. One can blindly have sex with anyone without protection; one can involve himself or herself in the use of drugs and so many other negative things that involve making important decisions in life. All this will be caused by being in an unhealthy relationship. So, the best thing to do is to carefully check the kind of relationship you are in before making a step. I’m sure you don’t want to get caught in these situations I’m talking about here. Walk away from unhealthy relationship before you get into these circumstances.

3. Unstable lifestyle.

When you are in an unhealthy relationship this is one of the effects you will encounter. You will never have a stable lifestyle because you will no longer have control of it. As I earlier mentioned in my last blog post when I was talking of the signs of bad/unhealthy relationship; I remember mentioning that one of the sign is “your partner controlling every aspect of your life”

Can you tell me, will you have control of your life is your partner controls every aspect of your life? This means that even the most important decisions in your life won’t be in your hands. How can you have a stable lifestyle if you can’t choose what matters to you? Your lifestyle will be unstable because you will have no control over your own life. Your life will be under someone else’s thumb. You will have nothing to stand for since you won’t be able even to make your decisions.

If you are used to this situation, do you think that you will have the ability to have a stable lifestyle if you break with a person who was controlling you? This will be impossible to manage your own life. This is because you have never made any important decisions in your life. It will take a long time before you gain control of your life.

This will also involve a lack of freedom in your own life. You will even fail to know who you are since you have no control over your life. We all know what this can do to you. It will break you into pieces when you are out of that unhealthy relationship. You will have no idea of the kind of life you would want to live in. That will be a major step down in your life. We all want to be in relationship with people who build us and make us bold. These are the kinds of people who believe in us and allow us to make our own solid decisions in life. By allowing this they make us have a lifestyle that is stable.

Unhealthy relationships have a great effect on your lifestyle. You have to understand that our lifestyles are always altered by the relationships we involve ourselves in. So, if you want to avoid this effect of having an unstable lifestyle you should start by walking away from unhealthy relationships. Life has so much to offer to you, you only have to choose wisely the kind of people you choose to associate yourself with. Take control of your life, stabilize your life and make a smart move to achieve a perfect lifestyle that you can make any changes you want.

4. Breakups.

I can’t tell how many breakups a person who is in an unhealthy relationship can go through. Let me start with family break-ups. So, how can unhealthy relationship results in a family break up? We all know that when a person in such a relationship he/she won’t have control over most aspects of his or her life. This will obviously deprive him or her of the time to spend with his or her family. Our families see what is the best for us and what is completely opposite to it.

When a person is in love especially with the wrong person and in a wrong relationship; it’s very hard to talk him or her out of that. This will make someone think that his family isn’t concerned about his or her happiness. What this person will do is to walk away from his or her family so that there will be no one to judge his or her relationship. This will eventually cause a family to break up. Life is really funny sometimes. The moment we think that what we have before is the best for us, but is completely opposite to what other people see it.

In most cases, the people who are in unhealthy relationships tend to feel that that is the best relationship for them. This will create a habit of kicking away people who tend to oppose what they value. This might go so far to an extent of someone deciding to live far away from people who tend to care about the situation he or she is in. This is one of the effects of an unhealthy relationship. A person can go to an extent of cutting off even his or her business connection just because of the relationship he or she has involved herself in.

So, now that you know the effect of an unhealthy relationship—how it affects your relationship with the people you love and care about, it’s better to let go of it. There is so much at stake if you keep on hanging on to unhealthy relationships. The people who provide value to our lives and give us guidance on what is better for us deserve to be locked up in our hearts. There is no need to get defensive when they try to tell you that the relationship you have is unhealthy.

5. Loneliness.

Have you ever felt lonely yet you are in a relationship? This does happen so much especially if you find out that the person you are dating can’t offer you what you want. Relationships that we make with people are mainly meant to give us joy and build us. This is the main reason why people get into relationships. The moment when you realize the person you are dating he or she is only into things that benefit him or her, then that is where loneliness will start popping in.

I talked about manipulation as one of a sign of unhealthy relationship. So, let me try to elaborate to you how this feeling of loneliness can result from an unhealthy relationship. Let say, you are so much in love with someone who you think he/she loves you back the way you do. You have so many expectations from him or her. You spend your time doing everything you can to make him or her happy which is one of your responsibilities in the relationship.

When it comes to his or her turn to return the favor he or she leaves you stranded. The moment he gets what he or she wants from you he or she has no desire to be around you. When you call him or her to be there when you need him or her but all he or she gives you are the lame excuses that he or she knows you will understand. This will leave you so lonely yet you claim that you have a lover in your life—this is now the effect of an unhealthy relationship.

You can’t get what other people get from their relationships not even half of it. This is because unhealthy relationships always benefit one person, not both. The only relationship that you can find the mutual benefit is a healthy relationship. So, if you are in an unhealthy relationship don’t expect to be happy in it. You will feel lonely and isolated from most of the important people in your life. You will be a loner. This kind of relationship will take every part of you that brings happiness to your life. It’s very important to consider the kind of relationship you are in.

6. Physical health problems.

An unhealthy relationship might cause physical health problems. If you are in an unhealthy relationship then it means the person you are dating is violent and aggressive. A person who is aggressive, manipulative, ego-centric and maniac do you think he or she will care about your health? As long as he/she gets what he/she wants you won’t matter to him or her. What do you think will stop him or her from using force to get what he or she wants from you?

This can go to an extent of beating you up whenever you mess up with anything that matters to him. I can’t imagine this but I know there are people who are beaten up by their partners without any reasonable reason. There is no need for someone to get pugnacious even if something out of the equation has happened in a relationship. People have to settle down and solve that incident peacefully. I don’t think unhealthy relationships have this procedure of couples solving their issues peacefully.

You may end up having bruises and fractured bones when you mess up. This is one of the effects of unhealthy relationships that can’t be avoided. The way you might be hooked up to that person it will be so hard for you to report him or her anywhere. You will just live with your injuries and hoping that things about him or she will get better, but I’m telling you that they might even get worst for you.

There is no need to carry all these problems on your back. This is a burden for any person who wants to have a healthy lifestyle. An encumbrance that you have a choice to keep it away, there is no need to stick in an unhealthy relationship. We both know that you suffer being in such a relationship. No one deserves to suffer for something that they love. Now that you have known the effects of unhealthy relationships it’s time for you to evade them.

Find a relationship that you will get something positive from it. You have to understand that you aren’t destined to end up unhappy in your life. There are so many people out there who are more than ready to make your life paradise on earth. Why should you stick in a relationship that deprives away your freedom and happiness?

Stand up and make up your mind. See the future and imagine what beautiful things it might bring to you. Don’t get blinded by what you get from a person who does nothing but hurt your feelings. Unhealthy relationships have so many more effects than those I have mentioned in this article. The best thing to do is to walk away from them no matter how difficult it may be. Got any questions? Leave your comment below I’ll reply as soon as possible.

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