My carnal mind tells me that the most important thing is that I am/be right.

My spiritual mind tells me that the most important thing is WHAT is right.

Here's a gold nugget and a piece of spiritual steak to chew on:

In your marriages, engagements and dating be responsible for your own thoughts and words. Discover their origin by comparing your thoughts and words to Galatians 5:19-21, 26 and Galatians 5:22-23, 25; and Ephesians 4:29-32.

There is so much to share, that i'm constantly reminded to move slowly. The object of this page and the teleconferences is walk together from where we are to the ideas and ideals we were sold on concerning Marriage. Let's face it one of the major reasons for splitting up, separating and divorcing is because we failed to achieve the idea/ideals of marriage with the person we are married to. The only problem is that until we resolve our own issues we carry them into the next relationship with us; because we are the common denominator in all of our relationships. In all of our relationships we were the one person that was/is in all of them.

i recently became reacquainted with a female friend from high school. Although i was elated about what i thought was a lost opportunity presenting itself again, it only provided me with another lesson learned:
The impact of our experiences, pains, etc can have an incapacitating effect on us. From this we tend to form a list of what we do not want; potential mate disqualifications. An alternate perspective is a potential mate qualification list. The difference in perspective is slight and can easily be overlooked. This same example can be applied to spouses: potential spouse dis/qualification list. It can also be applied to husbands and wives.
The next thing i learned is that it has an impact on my beliefs, expectations, actions, speech, etc. It is the same as how i respond to a person i like compared to a person i don't like; gets on my nerves or is pleasant. These are tied into the ego by how i view myself in comparison to others as i interact with them.
While she was comparing me to her potential mate disqualification list, i was comparing her to my potential mate qualification list (which comes from Proverbs 31).
Marriage is about two becoming one (2 Me - not 2 me's). Me is singular and us is plural. When 2 become Me then there is oneness - Marriage. Okay, now back to the scriptures Galatians 5:19-21, 26 and Galatians 5:22-23, 25; and Ephesians 4:29-32. i use these scriptures to guide me in my interaction with people.

Imagine what it will be like for a couple that applies the words of this post. Two people living together being responsible for them self. Imagine the impact it would have on the marriage. I challenge every married couple that reads this, to apply this and share with us all whether or not all of these words are fruitful or not.

To all have a most BLESSED day.

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