Ego, Wishful Thinking And Sex

Ego alias Wishful Thinking

So, you wanted a date, but she did not? For instance, did she show her low interest level by ignoring your phone calls? And how about your ego? It compels you to come up with a number of reasons, why she could not pick-up the phone, while she actually wanted to. Your ego just does not want to see the one and only reason – the low interest level. That’s why so many men pick-up the phone and beg her to reconsider that they are worth her attention. One just stand wonder-struck – if they were worth her attention, they would not beg her in the first place! They already would be after another one, who has not rejected them.

So many people are naïve and starry-eyed. As their motto, they could use: “She would clearly say no, if she would not be interested.”. Just don’t confuse them with optimists – they are a different chapter. These ones refuse to admit the truth. Why just don’t they want to see that if somebody wants to make a deal, s/he does something for it?

She committed adultery, yet he put his trust in her again, since he believed it was just a momentarily failure and she won’t do that again. So, she committed adultery again. With another man and under a better cover. Does it sound familiar to anybody?

We have 5-years relationship, but my girlfriend moved out two weeks ago – she said she needs a break to put her life together. I’m 23, she’s 22. What’s wrong with her? It’s astonishing how often men cannot see an obvious sign of low interest level. And not only that. This is a predictable result. Five years ago, she was 16. Statistics clearly says there will be a breakup, as she is too young. It is a nice demonstration of a battle you cannot win, if that means a long-term relationship. Are you still in a high school? Do not entertain false hopes as the interest level will never drop below the point of no return.

Don’t get me wrong – I don’t say that you should avoid girls, until you’re 19, 24 or more. Statistics says that you need to have some experience from practice and that’s the reason why first relationships fail. If you postpone them after high school, or later, you’ll still need to practice first.

I’ll tell you two war stories about people who wanted to believe, they’ll be the exceptions. They’ve dated since a high school, yet she left him anyway. For some time, they were apart, but she came back then. She had no high interest level and he had no idea, how much she used him. Second war story – they fell in love almost as kids so much, they got married. Hey, wait a moment – they never ever went on a single date with anybody else?! After reaching 40 and two kids, they have divorced. And do you know what? Unlike them, for sure, now you have information needed to more accurately predict the outcome under such conditions.

Into the Long-Term Relationship: Plot the Sex Course, Navigator

I’m gonna continue with another war story. She had several relationships, even male friends she rejected. But one day, the age of 30 came and no one suitable was on the scene. She even tried to seduce the last candidate with sex. It has shown, he did not want to bind himself to woman he practically doesn’t know and not so soon. But she felt like going crazy from the beat of her biological clock. So her majesty granted an amnesty to one of her rejected friends.

As you’ll hear somebody talking about sex as about a way to begin a long-term relationship, remember and try to think, whether it could be a variant of this war story. And since I wanna help you more than such talkers, I give a description of a warning flag that compromises such women. In the beginning, when she accepts your offer (e.g. date), her answer contains a reasoning, why she accepts. Like if she knew she is doing something wrong, she wants to convince the world she actually does the right thing. Miss Rights accepts your offer, because she has high interest level and therefore her response states that she agrees and that she looks forward to see you. Or a concrete counteroffer;-)

Existence of the flag, that’s good news. And two bad news accompany it:

1. If she is a user, she can watch her reaction to camouflage her true intentions. And don’t be fooled – she does not do that because of her high interest level. She has none. And therefore, it is possible that you won’t see the flag, just because she doesn’t care about you.

2. The more important an honorable act is to her, the greater probability you’ll see the flag. Sad to say, the higher your interest level goes, the less you wanna care. It takes self-control and self-esteem on your side.

Two examples of the warning signal follow:nn* Hi. Originally, I thought you’re a player. Nevertheless, it was nice, so I don’t see a reason why not to see you again. Bye Jennynn* Hi Clyde, you’ve quite surprised me. Perhaps, I was too young, when I rejected you at the time. But now, you look like a fine man – so, why not to get together. Bonnie

Just because some statement flatters the ego, it does not prove it true.