Throughout life we have and we will face unwanted life experiences. We will view these experiences as wearisome and upsetting to say the least. They may cause stress, anxiety and/or depression. They could also be so damaging to cause you to engage in negative behaviors in an effort to try to relieve the “dis-ease” you feel from these niggling tribulations. However, on the flip side, they could also bring you great joy and happiness if you allow them to.

One of the most powerful “tools” I learned over the years is to embrace every unwanted life experience as the best possible thing that could be happening to me at that moment. I look at it as a challenge from the Universe with a knowing that it will benefit me in the end. I know I have a choice. I can allow it to tear me down or I can allow it to allow me to shine through it. Every problem or obstacle is a new opportunity for you to be who you want to be and to have what you want to have.

I know what you are thinking, “How can bad things make me any different or give me what I want?” They will make you different if you choose to react differently than you normally would. Instead of reacting with frustration, anger, and/or fear react with courage and determination to overcome the unwanted knowing that something great will come out of it. That greatness could be strength, awareness and/or wisdom, or in the case of a lost job or house, the greatness could be a better job or a bigger house. When you look at unwanted life experiences as a BENEFIT they lose their power of being a problem so therefore they dissolve right out of your life leaving you with what you do want.

When you move from a negative reaction to a positive reaction, the Universe has no choice but to make your life experiences pleasant versus unpleasant. You have to remember that the Universe is here to serve you. It gives you what you ask for, no questions asked. The best description I have found in regards to how the Universe relates to us was in the book Be Who You Want Have What You Want, Change Your Thinking Change Your Life by Chris Prentiss. He writes, “Imagine for a moment that the Universe is your parent, an all-wise, all-knowing, totally powerful parent who loves you completely – a parent who can do anything and accomplish everything. Also imagine that your parent knows the past, present, and future. Most important, imagine that at al times your parent wants to benefit you in the maximum amount possible.”

The next time you are faced with an unwanted life experience, ask yourself how you want to feel through all of it. Do you want to continue to feel stressed out, torn apart, frustrated or angry, or do you want to embrace it for what it is and continue to enjoy life? YOU have the power to change anything at any moment – just change your thinking about it!

Author's Bio: 

Cindy is a Personal Development Life Coach. Her knowledge and expertise comes from 20 years of study, personal life experiences, and from working as a community volunteer and mentor. Cindy coaches people towards finding their own personal power through inner awareness; guiding them along their own unique path toward true happiness and life fulfillment. To learn more about Cindy go to Personal Blog go to