It has been my observation that most of our society participates or has participated in different levels of abuse. No matter what role we have held, collectively we might benefit from pondering how we can stop the cycle of abuse. Some might think this is a strong word; however, I feel it is really important that we start calling it like it is. In addition, to providing a safe environment for all of us to take full responsibility for our choices and take immediate action with ‘self’ by deciding to stop participating in this predator-victim cycle. I can admit that I have participated in the cycle and neither side feels aligned with my soul or the collective fabric of our society. Yet, these energies seem to feed off each other and are so deeply embedded in our language, media, thoughts, actions and would suggest to me that humanity has some deep inner work to do. The key phrase here is ‘inner work’...we can continue to point fingers, turn our heads, make excuses, and/or keep it all a secret; however, I ask you these questions, “What purpose does this serve and who are we serving when we do this?”

When you attempt to answer these to questions with excuses, reasoning and long might want to stop and take a breath. Then, remember the answer is quite simply is...’NO ONE!’

That is right...there is absolutely no benefit to any being on this planet or within the universe. Furthermore, we are the only species on this planet that kills each other. Yet, we continue to have long reasons for why this is necessary. I cannot buy into these arguments because I know we are capable of so much more. So, you might ask, “What can I do?” or “Where do we start?”

First, acknowledge where you are and how you are participating in this cycle with ‘self’ and/or others? (currently or in the past...Note: if we do not heal the past it stays with us. We accumulate the energy of our past actions and carry it with us. Check in: do you get emotional about certain topics? If so there is still some work to do).

Second, educate yourself on the forms of abuse. They are vast and sometimes we are participating and do not realize it. In buddhist teachings, they have a simple practice to have mindful thoughts, words and actions. This is simply...respect for self and others. (Note: Our thoughts affect both the person you are thinking about and you. It is destructive to the mind, body and spirit.)

Third, make a commitment to step out of the pattern and depending on the depths of the abuse you might need help. Find someone to help you with your ‘inner work’. We all can benefit from having a sound objective guide to help us through the process. One that will help get us from point A to B and possibly to Z. (Note: If you have been in therapy for years on end for the same issue...this would be an indicator to look for a new approach.)

Fourth, take time to be with only ‘self’. Abuse patterns are directly related to dependency. Our society has become interdependent. Codependency leads to clinging and attachments. These attachments lead to ‘self’ and interactive abuse patterns. By spending time with ‘Self’ in solitude you learn who you really are and what you really need. Suddenly, the list of wants seems to fade. It is a practice to be just with ‘self’. Depending what the universe throws your way, we might have to revisit these lessons till we master them. The simplest way to ‘BE’ in solitude is to meditate everyday.

Fifth, practice active compassion for self and others. This will lead you to true ‘self’ love and freedom. Compassion permits us the opportunity to not blame self and others. When, we hold all participating parties in compassion then we are lead to the gateway of true love...we can begin to taste, feel and sense what real love is. It is a love that does not participate in any forms of abuse with self or others. It is a love that is freely given and completely unconditional. It is a love that does not require anyone else...just ‘self.’ When, self begins to embody that love...the fabric our society will begin to be heal and transform.

Freedom will then reign.

Want to start your ‘inner work’?

1. Connect to your silence

2. Listen to her weekly ‘Self Love’ Radio Program

3. connect with Suzanne for a Session Local or Non-local...'She' will guide you 'Here'.

4. Ask the universe to lead the way.

Author's Bio: 

"Suzanne Toro is a dynamic mother of two who studied with Deepak Chopra, and has worked extensively in the areas of meditation, yoga and wellness (she is a certified Primordial Meditation Instructor). She's also a successful entertainment executive, serving as the Creative Visionary & Strategist for media production for of the Black Eyed Peas, one of the most successful bands in the music industry today. Toro has suffered many hardships -- sexual abuse, losing a child, and dealing with a loved one's serious illness -- but she's used each experience as an opportunity to learn more about herself and earn a real life PhD in personal growth. With a young family, Toro needed to find a practical, realistic way to begin her own healing and liberation process. By employing simple tools in her everyday life, she was able to connect with her inner self and release the pain that led her back to her true self. She is committed to embodying authenticity and practicing what she preaches by reaching out to local, national and global communities to share her vision. Bare Naked Bliss provides simple tools anyone can use to cope with stress and pain, break down mental barriers, find deeper connections and discover their inner joyful, authentic self. The teachings of the book are extended through inspiring poetry, guided meditations and music created by Toro with, singer/songwriter Anne Heaton, and other professional musicians. Toro has also developed "Bare Naked Dinners:" interactive dining experiences allowing participants to explore their inner truths through open communication and laughter shared while enjoying gourmet natural cuisine. In addition, she is currently serving as a liaison ("spirit bridge") between the mind-body natural approach to healing and traditional medicine. Working with doctors like Deepak Chopra, David Simon, the Simonton Cancer Center and others, she's become an authentic voice of their work, communicating their messages with grace and providing practical ways to integrate them into everyday life, together with her own meditation and wellness work. What if there was a way to let go of stress and suffering that was available to all and easily incorporated into daily life? Instead of spending thousands on therapy and psychotropic drugs, having to compromise one's religious beliefs or traveling around the world to find the secret to enlightenment, we just need to discover our own Bare Naked Bliss."