Emotional Affairs

In most instances, emotional affairs start out as ordinary friendships. It is important that you learn how to set the boundaries between a platonic friendship and a more attached relationship with another person. When you pursue a relationship with another person and consciously nurture a strong emotional bond, chances are you are getting into a situation which might become too personal for comfort in the near future. In order to avoid this, you must be able to set some limitations so that things don’t get out of hand.

While a lot of people deny this stark reality about emotional affairs, countless marriage problems can be attributed to this deep intimacy that started out as casual relationships. In fact, a lot of relationship experts consider this as a form of cheating without the sexual aspect of an extra-marital affair. An emotional affair is the first stage of a full blown extra-marital affair. If you allow this thing to happen, you are in effect committing infidelity.

You are committing emotional affair if you are investing more of your emotional energy in a relationship with another person who is not your husband or wife. You also seek out from that person emotional support and encourage the relationship to go to a higher level. When you have no qualms in deceiving your husband or wife just so that you can continue with your relationship with this person, then you are already treading on serious grounds. Those who commit emotional affairs try to rationalize their action by citing the fact that they are not “crossing” the line. However, you must understand that infidelity is already committed when deception enters into the picture.

This intimacy outside of marriage is a painful experience because it thrives on lies, deception and betrayal. If such intimate relationship outside of marriage is not nipped in the bud, sexual tension will increase and will ultimately lead to a full blown illicit affair. You have to remember that when one’s personal emotional energy is committed by your spouse on someone else, this is already considered an emotional affair. A cheating spouse will go through the process, purging any guilt feeling, until the situation becomes a full blown extra-marital affair.

So, how will you be able to determine whether your spouse is committing emotional affair or not? The key element of emotional affairs is secrecy. If your spouse decides to keep this serious involvement as secret, he has already “crossed” the line. Secrecy is a critical element in strong emotional attachments. And when your spouse decides to keep this from you, then emotional affair already exists. That is plain and simple extra-marital affair.

The deception that comes into play in emotional affairs accounts for most of the long-term damages to relationships. When your spouse commits emotional affair, your trust is violated. This event paves the way to more serious problems in your marriage. It is for this reason that you must be discerning enough to see through the deception before things get out of hand.

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Author's Bio: 

Norman Csarni grew up in Hungary, a communist dominated country. He was 25 years old when he came to the U.S. in 2000, and like many of his predecessors before him, he was in pursuit of the “American dream”. As he passed by the Statue of Liberty, the tears welled up in his eyes as his mind filled with hope for a better life for him and his bride, Victoria.
“Keeping your ring is easier than tying your
string.”
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