Expect The Unexpected: Dating Advice for Women

Hello ladies - today we're talking about what to expect in love and dating. Expectations can be a useful meter to test a particular guy against what you feel you deserve. The obvious problem though is setting these expectations too high and demanding more from a potential relationship than is appropriate. Of course, depending on your experiences with dating and relationships, your age, and your state of mind you probably have a set of ideas and expectations about your ideal man. Let me give all women some good dating advice about how to get what they want, while at the same time not being too rigid in your demands. First, make a list of what exactly you expect from a guy. This list should covers his attitude toward you, the kind of relationship you are seeking, your expectations for the future, his financial or career standing, his relationship with friends and family, his mental or emotional state plus anything else you feel is necessary. If its important to you, put it down. No matter how small or insignificant, if it would bother you that a guy didn’t have it – include it on the list. Second, once you've made your list, work on shortening it. Go item by item and see whether the specific requirement you put down is really something you can't live without. Ask yourself this question, and be honest. You'll be surprised that some things really are not that important or at least don't define or guarantee the quality of your relationship after all. It's really important to understand this difference and ask yourself why you really want something from a man and how it benefits you personally. For example, many women want someone who is financially successful. This is understandable, but is it the most important? It's not that something is right or wrong, but by setting this requirement very rigidly, you may miss out on normal and stable guys that are perfectly capable providing for you both. Is this really a requirement for happiness in love? Not necessarily! Some well-off guys are playboys, difficult themselves, unfaithful, desiring only flings and not real relationships. That's just one example. You can apply this kind of analysis on just about anything. If you open your mind a bit, you can actually be pleasantly surprised by something unexpected. Of course, this doesn't mean you should give up on all your criteria and go out with whomever. It does mean that in order to be successful in dating and relationships, you need to be prepared to deal with some unexpected things however. The more flexible you are, the more you will be able to get the best out of any situation. - Stella Visit Stella Singles Today!