Exploit

Your behavior towards her affects her interest level in you. Therefore, we can say that she judges your actions, which we can further classify as following:nn* Day Life
* Testn* Exploit

Day Life

On a date, do you wear a clean, non-wrinkled t-shirt and shiny boots? Do you make a noise over anything, or do you keep it cool? She watches your reactions and judges, what kind of person you’re.

Test

Here come all situations she purposely arranged to test you. She can smile at you and want to change the restaurant every time you got into one. In reality, tour over all restaurants is not her goal – she wants know, when you’ll stand-up and risk loosing her. She can smile at you during a discussion to tell you that she thinks an opposite of something you’ve just said. Does she really think so, or does she wanna know, if you start to modify your opinion to match hers? What if she just wanna knows, if you have a backbone? ;-)

Exploit

She liked the yesterday date so much, so she let you know this morning. She loves you so much, so she told you that. She misses you such much, so she sends messages. She does these things because of her high interest level – this is not a test. And you, lead by honor intentions, want to reciprocate the very same way. Parroting her reactions back does not increase the interest level. However, you feel like a manipulator as you intentionally keep back (your exploit) for a goodness of the relationship. Yet, thanks to rising emotions you take the parrot role anyway. And therefore, in the area of dating and relationships, I newly introduce the term "exploit" to describe these situations. Authors of encyclopedias and explanatory dictionaries, you have my permission to include the term:-)

Yet, there is one more difference – it is in you head. Although you have to watch your reactions, exploit can be misused (e.g. tears), you cannot consider everything as a test. This would throw you into a conspiracy world, where you cannot fully trust anyone. What would be such relationship worth? Well, it surely would not be worth continuing.

Thanks to a strong similarity with computer security, I leave the "exploit" name as is for languages other tha
English.

She always judges your actions, but she does not always arrange a test to do so.