Fan the Flames Of Love and Passion

You can bring back the passion in a long-term relationship by doing the following exercise:

Each of you take time to be alone and think back to when you were "in love" and "in lust" with your partner, particularly in the beginning. Write down all those things you did for each other, all the things you loved doing together, all the things you loved them doing for you. When you're done, create a separate list of those things your partner did for you.

Now, make a date with your partner so you will be undisturbed. Go somewhere special that you both consider romantic. Bring your lists and share them with each other. As you go through your lists, describing the early experiences of love, let yourself enjoy those feelings again. Share what you did, what they did, how you felt, how they looked, how you reacted to all those things from that early stage when the passion was at a fever pitch. Explain in as much detail as you can, especially the feelings. Make lots of eye contact.

Exchange lists of what you liked your partner to do for you. Then, once in a while, check the list and surprise each other by doing some of those things. Make dates to do the things you used to do. Keep the lists where you can be reminded often and get in the habit of being that romantic couple who fell in love. As you spend more and more time in those romantic feelings, you will become more passionate.

This will not happen on its own. You must consciously want it, and make it a part of your daily lives. Sometimes we simply get out of the habit of being "in love."
By Kara Oh, Copyright© by Ever Evolving and Avambre Press