Although someone can be very fearful, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be consciously aware of. Even so, through being this way, they won’t truly be able to embrace life.

They can live somewhere that is relatively safe and be free to live their life, but this won’t matter. Instead, they might rarely leave their house, let alone the area where they live and live a life that is very monotonous.

Keeping the Lid On

By living in this way, they may seldom experience fear and so, there will be no reason for them to see themselves as a fearful person. However, if an opportunity arose for them to try something different and leave their comfort zone, they could end up turning it down.

They might experience fear for a short while and then they could go back to how they were before. Alternatively, they could end up turning this down straight away, which will prevent them from feeling uncomfortable.

A Flat Life

By living in this way, they are likely to always feel as though they are simply going through the motions. If they ever do feel really good, it could be because they have consumed something.

Or, it could show that they have heard about what is taking place for a friend or family member. They may even vicariously live their life through this person or someone they see on TV.

An Expected Outcome

They may have moments when they feel down and depressed and simply don’t have the energy to get anything done. If they were to see their doctor, they could end up being put on medication.

The reason for this is that what has been going on for them could be put down to them having a “chemical imbalance.” Therefore, by rebalancing their neuro juices, everything will soon be fine.

A Random Experience

It will then be as though their brain is just playing up; not a sign that something else is not right and needs to be looked into. It’s as if there is no such thing as a cause and then an effect; there is just an effect and this needs to be dealt with to solve the issue.

Putting them on medication can allow them to carry on as normal but it almost certainly won’t allow them to live a life that is truly worth living. For this to take place, it will be necessary for them to take a closer look into why their life is the way that it is.

A Half-Life

For them to feel alive, they will need to express who they really are; not to live as if they are in an invisible prison or a bird that has had its wings clipped. Now, if they were to become aware of how fearful they are, it could be said that they just need to feel the fear and do it anyway.

So, regardless of what it is that they want to do, they need to just to take action. Another way of looking at this would be to say that as what they fear is all in their head, there is nothing for them to worry about.

Going Deeper

Nonetheless, if they were to change their behaviour, what they may find is that they end up being overwhelmed with fear and/or end up shutting down. Due to this, it won’t just be possible for them to feel the fear and to do it anyway.

What is going on for them will be too much for them to handle and they won’t be able to take the next step, or even if they do, they won’t be able to fully show up. Another person could then say that fear is ‘false evidence appearing real’ but it will be something that is very real for them.

A Closer Look

At this point, they could wonder what is going on. If they were to think about why this is, they could struggle to think of a reason why they are experiencing life in this way.

What this could show is that their early years were not very nurturing, with this being a stage of their life when they were regularly traumatised. Their conscious mind would then have ended up blocking out what took place to protect them, yet this would have also prevented them from being able to join the dots, so to speak.

Two Levels

One part of them, their conscious mind, will have moved on from what happened, but another part of them, their unconscious mind, won’t have. Their nervous system is likely to be overloaded, their emotional body can be filled with pain, and their brain can also carry the effects of what they experienced.

This is why merely changing their behaviour is not enough; they will need to do far more than that. It was ‘all about their mind’ this wouldn’t be the case and the behavioural approach would be enough.


If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, inner child and inner awareness. With over two thousand, eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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