As a sensually empowered woman, you are the keeper of your own mojo. It is that sense of self-confidence, self-esteem and sex appeal stemming from the core of your being and spiraling outward, enchanting every person around you. Sometimes we are in the flow, feeling good and looking our best. Other times we may feel like hiding under a mask, lacking self-esteem and poise. So how do we sustain our mojo and live life in balance?

It all comes down to maintaining a positive attitude. Our thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions are within our control 100% of the time. We can regulate how good, sensual, confident, attractive or healthy we feel. We are responsible for what we are getting out of life because it is a direct correlation to what we are putting out. If we project love, beauty, positivity, abundance and kindness, then that is what comes back to us. However if we criticize, complain or feel victimized, then that is what tend to manifest more of within our reality. What we think about, we bring about. So why not feel ecstatic as much as possible?

“Ecstasy is our very nature. To be ecstatic is natural, spontaneous. It needs no effort to be ecstatic; it needs great effort to be miserable. That’s why you look so tired, because misery is real hard work; to maintain it is really difficult, because you are doing something against the nature. You are going upstream – that’s what misery is.” – Osho

As much as we want to be confident, hot, sassy women, most of us are not prepared to be fully responsible for ourselves 100% of the time. We like to avoid responsibility or act confused about why life is ‘such a challenge’. Then we end up spinning our wheels and putting effort in the wrong direction. What happens is all the good stuff (your personal power, talents, enthusiasm, etc.) may get squelched, and then you find yourself repeating no-win patterns in relationships, career and health issues.

Most women think they can ignore the little voices in their heads that beat them up on a daily basis. They’ve learned to tolerate them and even worse, they’ve let them grow deep roots in their psyche. This self-criticism and self-destructive beliefs may come from childhood experiences and early family relationships. That’s why it is so important to identify the potential blocks between you and your personal truth.

Learning how to feel more confident and comfortable in your skin requires a solid base and inner truth to draw from. It is crucial for you to make it a priority to get control of your thoughts and beliefs. This might mean digging into some uncomfortable territory and removing some of the psychic weeds that overpower your potential. When you can clear the ground and lay a foundation for positive self-growth, you’ll be able to do it for the rest of your life.

To be a woman who is radiant in her own skin, feels good about who she is, and boldly shares her confidence in the world are the important and productive skills to be successful in your personal and professional lives. Being sexy and attractive has way more to do with your attitude than your physical appearance. How you think about yourself speaks volumes to the world. It is really how you perceive yourself that others may observe you in the same way. Your facial expressions, body movements and posture are so telling of your self-perception – even more so than the words you speak. Your eyes and smile reveal your inner truth and soulful passion.

If you seem to lack that daily drive, positive attitude, energy and motivation, then you may consider taking a daily supplement. I recommend Add Lib, as it is an all-natural herbal blend containing Vitamin B12, Cordyceps, Fenugreek Seed, Ginseng, Damiana, Maitake, Maca, Wulinshen, Passionflower extracts – a complete balanced blend to support a woman’s entire system for increased energy, positive disposition and passion for life. All of the women I know that take Add Lib (including myself) look, feel and act much younger than they are. Add Lib is available at GNC, Vitamin Shoppe, etc. as well as on-line at

Author's Bio: 

Allura Joy has worked with women of all ages and of diverse backgrounds for many years in offering support, holistic therapy and relationship counseling, as well as sharing valuable resources and useful information in the areas of women’s sexuality, health & wellness. Allura has facilitated various women’s groups, retreats, conferences and special events for women to come together in community to share, connect and support one another.

Allura also works with women individually to help resolve personal issues around relationships and intimacy, specializing in helping women who may have emotional and/or physical issues and insecurities with sexual expression and experiencing orgasm. She enjoys helping clients explore their passions in finding a sense of purpose and to manifest their dreams and desires. She is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Instructor.

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