Five Ways to Save Your Marriage

Are you worried because you are faced with marriage issues that have made it impossible for you and your partner not to understand one another? Do you remember the courtship promises you made to each other? "I will keep our marriage issues hush-hush, only between you and me once we get married." Of course, you should differentiate marriage issues that you can share with people from the ones that you shouldn't share with people. There should be boundaries.

What about the marriage vows you made to each other? You uttered the marriage vows in witness of the crowd, "I Wendy, take you Jack, to be my wedded husband... from this day onwards, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish you always, until death do us apart..." What happened thereafter? Was it a happily marriage thereafter or did things fall apart?

God's plan for marriage is that a man and a woman should live together, become one flesh and what God has joined together no one should separate. There are some questions married couples ask themselves when things fall apart, especially if one of the partners adheres to their marriage vows and the other one doesn't.

A wedding is a happy and memorable event in life. It brings together two individuals to start a family legitimately. It is the wedding that starts the marriage off on a cheerful note. However, as married partners start living together their marriage is faced with challenges. External and internal challenges will arise. They are normal and spouses have to deal with them. If they're not handled well and in time, they eventually result to a conflict.

Divorce shouldn't be an automatic response to marriage issues as it can have a negative impact on both parties as well as other family members. Divorce makes children to suffer in that they lack the affection and love from the other parent. The truth is that spouses who are willing to save their marriage are able to overcome all the challenges that their marriage is faced with.

Five Ways to Save Your Marriage

1.) First of all, both parties must admit that problems exist. Problems don't go away if they're ignored, instead they only get worse. Accept that you have marriage issues that you should both resolve in order to save your marriage. Identify these marriage issues (challenges) and work together to find amicable solutions for them.

2.) There is a proverb that says you cannot fight the enemy that you cannot see. This is especially true when it comes to marriage issues. If your spouse becomes distant and acts differently, find out what is going on. Give your partner the opportunity to let his or her feelings out no matter what they might be.

3.) Problem solving is not the only way to save your marriage. You must also constantly work at keeping your love alive. Nurture your marriage with your partner. Be romantic so that your partner feels loved always. Give romantic surprises and go on dates, just because you're married it doesn't mean that you should stop dating your partner. Remember the most romantic times you had in the past and look for ways to create new romantic memories.

4.) Share your inner feeling with your spouse. Listen intently when your partner speaks and show empathy for his or her concerns. Cultivate your communication skills as these can help you to overcome marriage issues when they occur. Get intimate with one another through conversations.

5.) Seek advice if you need it. An impartial person can be of great help in solving marriage issues. Relationship books and counseling from an expert may put your marriage back on the correct path. Bad advice from a friend may do more harm than good, so avoid friends who will give you a bad advice.

There are many ways to save your marriage if you're determined to do so. It doesn't matter what has happened but what matters is your working towards a happy marriage. When you learn the proper communication techniques and open up your feelings, you and your partner always grow closer together and begin to repair the hurtful and hard feelings.

"Colossians 3:18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly."