If your boyfriend broke up with you and you want to get him back, then there are a few things you need to learn. There will always be mistakes in relationships. Don’t blame yourself or your boyfriend if you decided to call it quits. What you need to focus on is how to mend your broken relationship.

How do you get him back?

One of the best things you can do is try to learn how the male mind works. By being able to understand men and learn a few things on how their mind works, you can then change your behavior. It is possible for you to change your behavior in a way that he would find attractive.

We act on emotions after a breakup which, as you know, is not a good idea. You feel like you don’t know where to turn to, you become tearful, and you end up blurting out things to your boyfriend. Later, you would regret doing all of these things but the truth is you can’t help it. It’s human nature, but at the same time it’s essential for you to fight against these urges.

Here’s a fun fact: when women are unhappy with their relationship, most of them can’t focus on work. However, when men are unhappy with their work, then they can’t focus on their relationship.

Why is that?

Because unlike women, who naturally focus on relationships and have a knack for finding “connections” with our partners, men are more focused on protecting and providing. In other words, unless everything they’ve set their mind to has been taken care of, being sweet and cuddly is not going to happen.

This is one of the reasons why there are typical problems in all relationships. We are mismatched. However, it doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You can think of it as the yin and yang symbol in a sense that men and women balance each other.

Men are drawn to happy and confident women
Knowing this, you’ve now learned that men need their space especially after a breakup. How he sees you after a breakup is essential which is why throwing tantrums or pleading with him is a bad idea. He won’t be very thrilled if you keep contacting him and he will be even more displeased if you stalk him. Men usually stay away from emotional women because they don’t know how to cope with it.

What you can do instead is act confident and also agree
that it was for the best because when you do this, it will shake him up a bit. You will take him by surprise because he was expecting that you act in a completely different way. You might even make him think that it was you who wanted the breakup in the first place.

How to re-attract him

You did it before, you can do it again. You know what made him like you in the first place, you just have to have this self belief. Even if he was the one who did the dumping, you need to believe that he made a mistake and that you are worth getting back.

One of the best ways to get him back is to get the mystery back. Show to him that there is more to you and there are interesting aspects of your character that has yet to be discovered. For men, mystery is a huge turn on.

Author's Bio: 

Ashley Kay is a dating and relationship expert who runs a popular free online newsletter that helps women and men have the relationship they want, minus the heartache and drama.