As a normal worldly ritual, everyone thinks of marriage as ‘a beautiful bond between husband and wife’, wherein the two lead a good and happy life. Following the societal norm, we too dream about getting married; and look forward to having a life-time companion in the form of a partner and a loving family whom we can call our own and who will be there to look after us in the later stage of life. And as we reach the marriageable age, our parents also begin to insist that we get married soon...rightly so, for it is their duty to do so.

Parents never divulge the pain and suffering involved in a married life. But, we as a child, although unintentionally, have observed our parents’ behavior with each other. And consciously and subconsciously, we’ve evaluated the meaning of marriage from our individual perspective. Many research reports reveal how parents’ relationship plays an important role in forming child’s opinion for getting married.

So what does your evaluation tell you after seeing your parent’s marriage?
Are you still keen on getting married or have you changed your opinion about it? After seeing your parents’ marriage, do you get a sense of feeling that marriage is a severe bondage and it is best not to get trapped in it; or you feel one should taste its fruits anyways?

We seldom find a couple living a genuinely happy married life and following the ideal ways of interacting with each other. On every small little thing, there are arguments, fights, quarrels, conflicts… and what not, the whole day long, because each has one’s own way of doing things, has one’s own opinion on importance of everything, and has independent views on even matters that are most trivial and which mean nothing. eg. Mother is constantly arguing how important it is to buy something as her eye is on the 10% discount available on it, whereas the father’s counter-argument is loaded with excuses why it should not be bought, as he is worried about the 90% cost involved in it.

Both, working on their respective agendas, expect the other person to understand them. Even if one adjusts and gives in at times, there immediately builds in an expectation that the other should now adjust next time. To each, one’s own wishes and expectations is what matters, and this becomes the prime reason for a constant rift between every husband and wife, be it your mother and father or be it any other married couple, because it is practically impossible for anyone to fulfill all the expectations and wishes that a person may have in this world.

Seeing parents’ unhappy married life, children often think what is the real purpose in getting married, if we are not going to find any happiness in it?
And the whole purpose being defeated, many children come to a conclusion of not getting married after seeing their parent’s marriage.
If you are one of them who has changed the opinion on getting married, make sure you complement it with an aim to live a rightful life. It is very wrong to skip getting married and yet pursue married life pleasures in life; for doing so, one has to suffer grave consequences for many, many lives.

If your opinion of not getting married is coupled with your interest in following celibacy, do you know it is a huge step in the direction of your ultimate liberation from all sufferings? In such a case you should maintain a strong inner intent and desire to attain Self-realization and follow celibacy.

Practicing celibacy is very good indeed, but provided it is practiced with right understanding. Such brahmacharya not only makes our body and mind good and strong, but also leads us to the experience of the bliss of our real Self. So if this really interests you, you may pray to God everyday, asking Him for strength and right understanding to practice brahmacharya correctly under the shelter of a Gnani, who can rightly guide you in making spiritual progress, and bring you inner peace and eternal joy.

The path of Gnani is the path that leads to happiness!!!
Once you happen to meet Gnani, the Enlightened One, and connect with Him, you will rise higher spiritually.

Having attained Self-Realization from Him and following His given principles; you can then also help your parents live a harmonious life together, by inspiring them to take onto this path. When they adopt the right understanding given by Gnani, it will resolve their daily conflicts and they will find real happiness.

A happy man always makes everybody happy, and only one who is unhappy spreads unhappiness around. When your parents will have found the real happiness, happiness is what they will give each other and to the family too. And soon they will foster a harmonious relationship not only between the two, but even with you, and the entire world too!

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization