Heart Freedom Exercises
Exercises To Do Together
by Al Link and Pala Copeland

Lovers’ Scissors

Although this is an intercourse position, in this instance the focus is not on orgasmic release or simple physical pleasure. By combining mental focus, conscious breath, genital connection, and loving eye contact, the Lovers’ Scissors brings your masculine and feminine energies into harmony. It opens your hearts, connecting you deeply to your partner.

Time Required: five to 30 minutes, depending on how much time you have

Properties Required: none


  1. Lie perpendicular to each other—heads apart, groins close together. The woman is on her back, the man on his side. To make the scissors, the woman puts the leg that is closest to her partner over top his hip. Her other leg she puts between his legs.
  2. In this position the man gently slides his penis into her vagina. Use saliva or lubricant to ease entry.
  3. Look into each other’s eyes (see Eye Gazing) and breathe slowly and deeply together (see Harmony Breath).
  4. Place your hands on each other’s heart.
  5. Be quiet and still.
  6. Feel your connection through your genitals, through your hands to heart, through your eyes, and through your breath.
  7. Focus your mind on your loving connection. If thoughts intrude, let them pass through and draw your attention back to your genitals, your heart, your eyes, and your breath.
  8. To complete your practice, slowly disengage and then give each other a full-body hug.


This is a great position for ending lovemaking or during lovemaking when you want to catch your breath before going on to more active thrusting again. Try it as a meditation for starting or ending your day together. Its energetic effects are cumulative—a deeper bond and more patience with each other.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their websites www.tantra-sex.com, www.sexyspiritualrelationships.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot's Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.