Yes, you. I’m writing this specifically for you to read. Someone needs to tell you, and I care enough about you to do it. Listen, you are a very lovely person. No seriously. You have a good heart and are accomplishing wonderful things. The people around you admire your strength and dedication in what you do.

However, instead of remembering all that you are, you are boring the rest of us with everything that’s not right. You spend so much time whining, crying, and moaning about your daily troubles or who did you wrong. Honestly, the rest of us are sick and tired of being around all that negative energy.

Stop it! No, just stop!

Oh, you thought this was motivational stuff? Yeah well, it is. I’m hoping this motivates you to stop complaining so much. Let me give you a few reasons why you should stop complaining as much as you do.

Complaints Stop The Flow Of Gratitude

What you focus on is a choice. Each time you think and speak negativity and complaints, you are blocking positivity and gratitude from your life. The good and the not so good are happening simultaneously. What have you decided to pay more attention to? Where are you putting your time and energy? Choose wisely because your focus on one automatically diminishes the other. If you choose to complain, you miss an opportunity to have more gratitude. When gratitude is flowing, it also increases your joy, peace, courage, and strength even in ordinary moments. Creating more gratitude makes what was compliant-worthy look less and less important.

You Are Diminishing What You Already Have

Decide to notice what you do have instead of complaining about all that you don’t. While you bore us gripping about what you don’t have, you can’t see all that you have. You’re comparing yourself to others instead of being thankful for how your circumstance compares to who you were before. If you can’t see all that you do have, you probably won’t notice how all that you have is enough. Check it out if you don’t believe me. It might not be what you want or what you think you need, but spend some time being more grateful and gracious to yourself and others. As you express gratitude, you will start to notice that what you have somehow is exactly what you need. You won’t have time to complain about what you don’t have if you notice that what you do have is perfect for you in this moment. You have enough. Be thankful.

You’re Not Really That Mean Or Surly

You have incredibly high expectations not just of others but of yourself. I know you like things just so. The truth is you are an overachiever of sorts. You are off getting things done and making things happen. It’s just that you tend to pay way more attention to the things that are going wrong than all that is going well. Relax. No one likes the you that you are becoming, not even you. Hear the way you speak to others and about yourself. When did you start nipping at everyone like that? It’s not a good look. You are not really that mean or surly.

Listen, the person who shared this with you was hoping you would see their like, tweet, or post and would really take the message to heart. If you see this more than once, it’s really not a coincidence it’s an intervention. Yes, you are right, tagging your name on this post was uncalled for, but don’t loose the message taking offense at the delivery. Your well-intentioned friend remembers that you were not always this negative. You didn’t notice yourself sliding so far down into that unhappy place. See, that’s why I’m writing this. Now that you know better, you can stop complaining so much. Check yourself and get back to the wonderful you that is more authentically you!

Author's Bio: 

Adrienne, the Soul Power Coach™ is a Speaker and Coach for highly creative problems solvers and entrepreneurs who struggle with procrastination, doubts, fears, over-thinking, good excuses, and stubbornness. Adrienne knows exactly how to confidentially coach Helpers who get overwhelmed being there for everyone else, but are uncomfortable being helped. The Soul Power Coach™ has practical tools for the accomplished, respected, workaholic feeling isolated and frustrated because the people around them are behaving badly, or they just want life to be more fun. Clients come to the Soul Power Coach™ needing more focus, organization, consistency, and courage to move even the most impossible obstacles out of the way and feel more unspeakable joy. Adrienne has several ways to work herself out of a job by showing clients how to access their own Soul Power immediately and more consistently. Take the 30 Second Soul Power Challenge & get $275 of do-it-yourself coaching tools free at