During this holiday season, if you spend more time with your family, you may find your buttons getting pushed. Here is the thing about healing.
Those buttons—those are the very places where you store pent up feelings and ignore unmet core needs that lead to or contribute to illnesses. This holiday could provide a significant opportunity to do some fundamental healing that will allow your mind and body to find greater healing.

Families are where our deepest unmet needs rise to the surface. Those unmet needs unconsciously drive us, and illness, believe it or not, is one way in which we get those needs met.

When you are with family, you may find those unconscious needs becoming very apparent to you. As they do, you are in a better position to identify them and bring your hidden motivators to conscious awareness, where you can meet them in more positive ways.

I remember returning home during the holidays with the hope that my mother might actually be more interested in what I was doing or that my dad would take more notice of my opinions about things. I wanted family dynamics to be different than they were, and so holidays were often a source of great disappointment.
It took a while for me to figure out that my family was just being my family. I was changing and if I was truly growing spiritually, then I needed to be willing to hold the space for them that I was seeking for myself.

In other words, if I wanted to my mother to become more interested in me, then I needed to start a new cycle of interaction by becoming more interested in her. If I wanted my father to listen to my opinions, it meant asking more questions about his views.

Over time, my family might or might not extend the same interest in me, but regardless, I would be bringing healing into our family dynamic. Surely, if I was feeling unrecognized, unheard, or misunderstood, there was a high probability the other family members were feeling the same thing, since such unmet core needs can be (and were in my case) passed down from generation to generation.

I knew that in time, my unmet core needs would get met—through my family members or someone else. With my family I had the opportunity to recognize the universality of those needs and simply become a healing agent within our family dynamics. I became the compassionate, healing balm we all needed.

Oh sure, I argued with myself that it should be coming from my parents first, not me. After all, they were the parents. But the reality was that I had come to understand the importance of healing core needs in order to heal physically and emotionally. My parents hadn’t come to that realization yet. So who should initiate the change? The one who knows!

In choosing to consciously become that healing agent—listening, caring, asking questions, and being concerned for another—I eventually attracted that energy into my life from friends, and to my surprise, at times from my parents and siblings.
It is amazing how much pain and tension in my body was a direct reflection of those unmet needs, and how quickly illness began healing as I created the space in which those needs could become met.

Perhaps during this holiday season, your family will be the recipient of your healing balm. Perhaps you will feel the call to be the one to bring to your family what each one of them needs most—for their healing and yours.

Author's Bio: 

Misa Hopkins is the author of the best-selling book, “The Roof of All Healing: 7 Steps to Healing Anything, which has been named the first aid handbook for the new 21st Century consciousness. As a former special education teacher, actress, and organizational consultant, and now as Spiritual Director for the New Dream Foundation, Hopkins is an astute observer of human motivation and potential. Her observations about the healing progress of her clients, students, and friends, and her own miraculous healings led her to ground-breaking conclusions about why people remain ill, even when they are trying to become well.

Hopkins recognized that illness may actually meet unconscious needs you aren’t even aware exist. She applied her 30 plus years of teaching experience to create her 7 Steps to Healing Anything, and today, she’ll give you some insights about how those steps can help you break through the limits of illness to experience the freedom and joy of wellness.