Anger is a powerful emotion that can cause immense damage to relationships, productivity and overall joy.

It’s important to learn how to manage anger in order to protect yourself from its potentially harmful effects.

In this article, we will discuss three ways that unchecked anger can ruin your joy and what you can do about it. We will explore how anger can lead to negative thinking patterns, reduce self-esteem and harm relationships with others.

With the right strategies, you can take back control of your emotions and create more peace in your life.

Here are three ways in which anger can destroy your joy in life.

1. Thinking Patterns: Unchecked anger can set off a chain reaction of negative thinking patterns that can take control of your life and disrupt any sense of joy. Thoughts such as “I’m not good enough,” or “nothing ever works out for me” can become pervasive and prevent you from taking pleasure in anything at all. As thoughts of anger take over, we become deeply entrenched in the cycle and find it difficult to break free from its grip.

2. Self-Esteem: When unchecked anger takes control, it can lead to feelings of shame and guilt that can significantly diminish our self-esteem. We may begin to feel that we are unworthy or cannot accomplish what is necessary to gain joy in our lives; Eventually, even seemingly simple tasks can be too overwhelming for us to complete. This further diminishes our self-confidence, as well as our overall ability to experience joy.

3. Relationships: The emotional intensity associated with unchecked anger can cause considerable damage to relationships with others. We may become irritable and lash out at those around us without considering how they may feel afterwards; this makes it difficult for others to trust us or enjoy spending time with us, which destroys any potential joy we could have experienced together. Furthermore, unresolved anger issues often cause relationship breakdowns where one partner (or both) might be unable to forgive the other for past wrongdoings; this creates an atmosphere of tension and mistrust that can destroy any potential source of joy between them.

How can I better manage my anger?

1. Identify the Triggers: Before you can begin to manage your anger effectively, it is important to identify what triggers it in the first place. Take some time to reflect and consider which situations or scenarios are likely to cause you to become angry. By understanding the source of your anger, you can take steps to avoid the situation or address it in a constructive way.

2. Practice Self-care: Taking care of yourself is one of the most effective ways to decrease your feelings of anger and increase your joy. Regular exercise, healthy eating, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy are all important elements of self-care that can help reduce stress levels and improve your emotional wellbeing.

3. Reflect and Analyze: When feeling overwhelmed with intense emotions such as anger, it’s important to take a step back before reacting impulsively. Reflect on what has caused your feelings and analyze how best to respond without making matters worse; this will allow you to remain calm and make more rational decisions rather than acting out on your emotions.

4. Breathe Deeply: It may sound simple but deep breathing has been scientifically proven to be an effective tool for managing strong emotions like anger. Taking slow breaths helps activate our parasympathetic nervous system which reduces our heart rate, creating a sense of relaxation in the body that can help us move away from feeling angry or frustrated and towards joyfulness instead.

5. Seek Support: Anger management is often an ongoing process that requires dedication and patience in order to achieve lasting results; however, sometimes we need extra support for these efforts or additional coping strategies beyond what we already have access too. Reaching out for professional help such as therapy or counseling can provide valuable insight into our own behavior patterns while offering practical advice on how best to manage difficult emotions like anger in a constructive manner.


By understanding the triggers of anger, practicing self-care, reflecting and analyzing our emotions before responding impulsively, taking deep breaths to activate our parasympathetic nervous system and seeking support when needed, we can learn how to manage our anger in order to protect ourselves from its potentially harmful effects. When we are able to control these intense emotions that can overwhelm us at times, it is possible for us to create more peace in our lives and experience greater joy. With practice and dedication to this process you will be able take back control of your life from unchecked anger and enjoy a happier life overall.

Author's Bio: 

Ambassador of JOY, Barry Shore, is a change maker and life transformer whose profound message of JOY is being embraced around the globe. A successful entrepreneur, Barry was afflicted suddenly with a crippling disease that left him a quadriplegic overnight. Barry’s decision to use this experience to better his life and the lives of others has opened a unique opportunity to find JOY in living regardless of circumstance. Barry’s Keep Smiling Movement has distributed over a million Keep Smiling Cards free to all. His radio show/podcast, The JOY of Living is heard worldwide with 100 thousand downloads per month. Barry founded the JOY of Living Institute, helping thousands of people learn to live in JOY every day. Barry is a charismatic, JOY-contagious speaker who captivates his audiences and elevates them to a new level of extraordinary. Embraced by numerous major media outlets and a host of well-known celebrities, Barry is a must-have speaker for your next event! Barry Shore has a best selling book on Amazon. Coming soon, his newest title: STRESS KILLS… JOY Heals.