“How Can I Have Faith if I Don’t Believe”

I had a person call me this weekend and she had been in grief for 5 years with lots of people in her life who died. And she asked how can I have faith if I don’t believe in anything. Here is what I said.

Place Limits on Your Grieving Process

This young lady was having lots of health problems and she was still grieving after 5 years. And I told her that this is not good, that the low energy vibration of grief and sadness will take its toll on her body and cause health challenges. In fact, I told her about a friend who had grieved for the passing of a loved one for 20 years and she ended up having cancer twice and finally passing away.

So for a purely selfish reason, we are to take care of our body and allow those who have left this earthly plane to be at peace… so we can be at peace. We have to place a time limit on our grieve process. That’s not to say we will just stop the grieving process altogether. It’s important to let all our feelings out or our feelings become trapped within and create dis-ease.

We have to tell ourselves that we will grieve all we can in one year, or six months, or one month… and then let it go.

She Asked the $64 Question… What is God?

She also asked what is God? And I told her that is what all the spiritual texts have talked about for ages. And none of them agree, it’s like having billions of people being blindfolded and touching an elephant. One feels an ear, one an eye, one the tail. And when asked what is an elephant like? They say it’s like a huge ear, or a big eye, or a long slender tail. But none of them really know, it’s just part of the elephant. And so it is, with our limited understanding and knowledge that makes it absolutely impossible for us to understand exactly what God is. Oh, there have been many that have come in His name, in the Human form, but what form does God have… no one really knows for sure.

When people have a Near Death Experience they sometimes see God, the Universe, and Great Spirit as an Amazing All Encompassing Light Full of Love. Perhaps that is as close as we can get.

Let Go of Doubt, Pride, and Envy

I also told her to let go of all doubt, pride, and envy. There are many elements that create disbelief and one of them is total doubt about everything and anything. All of us know people like this, they don’t believe that we landed on the moon, they don’t believe that Jesus, Buddha, Krishna and many others ever existed… and on and on. And in order for a person to really find that peace they have to turn around all their disbelief and start believing in something bigger. And this does not happen by talking to them… it happens because of experience.

I personally, know someone who just had a near death experience and it changed his life. Before he never believed in anything… but now he is a true believe
because of his own personal experience.

And envy and pride get in our way of every being humble enough to allow truth to filter into our lives.

Keep Seeking

And I told her, to keep seeking and you will find your way. And I will pray for you ask Great Spirit that you be given some kind of powerful experience that opens your heart.

Many Blessings to Everyone

Dr. Paul Haider